Reid geeks out on non-monogamy with Sex At Dawn’s Christopher Ryan!

Club Exotica presents Sex at Dawn

Featuring a talk by Christopher Ryan, author of  Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality • sexatdawn.com

Wednesday, November 9th

SupperClub, 657 Harrison Street

Doors open at 7pm

Talk & panel start at 8pm

Dance party  at 10pm to 2am

Proudly Supported by Good Vibrations!

Panel with…

• Carol Queen, co-founder Center For Sex And Culture www.sexandculture.org
• Reid Mihalko, sex and relationship expert www.reidaboutsex.com
• Marcia Baczynski, relationship coach, sex educator www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/
• Polly Pandemonium, founder of Kinky Salon www.kinkysalon.com
• Sara Kiss, hostess Club Kiss www.clubkiss.us
• Wendy O Matik, author of Redefining Our Relationships www.wendyomatik.com
• Philippe Lewis, co-founder Club Exotica
• Jocelyn Agloro, co-founder Club Exotica

Performances by

 Knowa Knowone

(Street Ritual, Muti Music, SF, CA)

streetritual.com

 knowaknowone.com

Dj Jocelyn soundcloud.com/dj-jocelyn-1

El Papa Chango

 Aerial Act

by

Fuego y Rosa

El Circo Beefing Up The Sound

 For Your Eargasmic Pleasure

Jump to the Sex At Dawn Facebook Event!

Join Club Exotica for a very special evening with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book “Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” Ryan will discuss his work and then join Center For Sex And Culture co-founder Carol Queen and a panel of modern relationship luminaries to review the implications of his findings: that humans have never been a naturally monogamous species.

Independent scholar Ryan presents only the data. He does not suggest how to change your life to live in accordance with his reading of human nature. The panelists will pick up where Ryan’s work ends to discuss how people are working to develop new relationship models that are both in line with our nature and work within our modern social context. There will be extensive Q&A and a forum to continue the dialog with panelists late into the evening. This is a unique opportunity to hear Ryan and others address complex, intimate relationship issues in an informal yet elegant setting and meet others working to manage similar challenges and enjoy open intimate partnerships.

The discussion will be followed by live performances and one of San Francisco’s sexiest “second base” dance parties, produced by Club Exotica.

Panelists include:

• Christopher Ryan, author of Sex At Dawn www.sexatdawn.com
• Carol Queen, co-founder Center For Sex And Culture www.sexandculture.org
• Reid Mihalko, sex and relationship expert www.reidaboutsex.com
• Marcia Baczynski, relationship coach, sex educator, author www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/
• Polly Pandemonium, founder of Kinky Salon www.kinkysalon.com
• Sara Kiss, hostess Club Kiss www.clubkiss.us
• Wendy O Matik, author of Redefining Our Relationships www.wendyomatik.com
• Philippe Lewis, co-founder Club Exotica www.clubexoticapresents.com
• Jocelyn Agloro, co-founder Club Exotica www.clubexoticapresents.com

About Sex At Dawn:

• A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback
• One of NPR’s Favorite Books of 2010
• Winner of the 2011 SSTAR Consumer Book Award (Society for Sex Therapy & Research)
• A Best Book of 2010 (Audible.com)

“The single most important book about human sexuality since Alfred Kinsey unleashed Sexual Behavior in the Human Male on the American public in 1948.” — Dan Savage

“Funny, witty, and light . . . the book is a scandal in the best sense, one that will have you reading the best parts aloud and reassessing your ideas about humanity’s basic urges well after the book is done.” — Newsweek

On an almost daily basis we are inundated with stories about the collapse of the latest celebrity marriage—and infidelity is almost always the cause of the break up. Is it even possible for two people to stay together happily over an extended period of time? Since Darwin’s day, we’ve been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. But it doesn’t, and never has.

Mainstream science—as well as religious and cultural institutions—has long maintained that men and women evolved in nuclear families where a man’s possessions and protection were exchanged for a woman’s fertility and fidelity. But this narrative is collapsing. Fewer and fewer couples are getting married and divorce rates keep climbing while adultery and flagging libido drag down even seemingly solid marriages.

In SEX AT DAWN, renegade researchers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá debunk almost everything we “think we know” about sex.

Ryan and Jethá show how our promiscuous past haunts our current struggles regarding monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics. Some of the themes they explore include:

• Why long-term fidelity can be so difficult for so many;
• Why sexual passion tends to fade even as love deepens;
• Why many middle-aged men risk everything for an affair;
• Why homosexuality persists in the face of standard evolutionary logic; and
• What the human body reveals about the prehistoric origins of modern sexuality

Ryan and Jethá show that our ancestors lived in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and often, sexual partners. Weaving together convergent, often overlooked evidence from anthropology, archeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality, the authors show how far from human nature sexual monogamy really is. They expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.

In the tradition of the best historical and scientific writing, SEX AT DAWN unapologetically upends unwarranted assumptions and unfounded conclusions while offering a revolutionary understanding of why we live and love as we do. A controversial, idea-driven book that challenges everything you know about sex, marriage, family, and society.

Jump to the Sex At Dawn Facebook Event!

Have your relationship agreements conversation before you step foot on the playa.

You may not be able to keep out the dust at Burning Man, but having strong relationship agreements can help keep out the drama!

A very sweet, open-minded couple I’d been doing relationship coaching with recently decided that they were going to go to Burning Man for the first time together. They’d been married for over a decade and together for nearly two. They’d heard plenty of miscommunication horror stories ruining Burning Man and relationships from their friends. It was obvious to them that they needed to create their relationship agreements for the Burn, but they’d never had to have such a conversation before. They asked me for my best thinking on the subject and what rules and agreements I use when I attend Burning Man.

I was more than happy to oblige these two wonderful and committed people, and I wanted to share what I told them with you…

Below are some possible Conversation Starters to chew on, as well as my “official” Relationship Agreements & Sex Rules* for couples heading to Burning Man together.

*In the interest of including all those monogamous Burners who aren’t looking to sex-up their fellow faux-fur-clad playa peeps, please feel free to substitute words like “sex” and “sleeping with” with whatever PG-13 and R-Rated phrases that suit you. Some suggestions: “making out,” “flirting,” “dancing seductively,” “naked massage,” “spending more time with,” etc….

These are by no means the only ways to approach Burning Man, but they’re a good place to start kicking the ball around as you get ready to hit the Playa. May they be received as nutritious, bacon-flavored, relationship jerky for the two of you to chew on!

Have a GREAT Burn!!!!! And, please, give Black Rock City my love…
REiD

CONVERSATION STARTERS:

1. Should you have your own tent or share a tent? On a scale from 1-10, ten being Very Important To You, how important is it that you share a tent?
2. If your partner were to have sex with a complete stranger at Burning Man, what safer sex protocols could they follow which would make you feel emotionally and physically safer?
3. If your partner were to have sex with a someone you know at Burning Man, what safer sex protocols could they follow which would make you feel safe emotionally and physically?
4. Who is on your “Please Do Not Fuck So-And-So List”?
4a. If they don’t fuck them, and follow the safer sex protocols above, what could they do with them that would leave you feeling safe emotionally and physically? (ie. Kissing? Oral sex? Exchanging energetic orgasms? Showering together? Non-erotic massage? Cuddling?)
5. Does any of the above change if your partner spends the night with stranger/person you know? Sleeps over? Wakes up next to?
6. Would it bother you to hear your partner having sex or see them pre or post-coitus entering/leaving their tent with another person? (If so, then consider a “no fucking other people in our camp”-type rule.)
7. Depending on the answers above, is it okay for your partner to have sex in your tent with someone other than you?
8. Same question as #7, but you’re included in the sexy time… Does that change anything? Discuss.
9. Is it okay for your partner to interrupt you having sex with someone else to get support from you, emotional or otherwise? If it’s not okay, can you be specific as to when it would be okay to interrupt you?
10. Is it okay for your partner to interrupt you spending non-sexual time with someone else for emotional support or otherwise? If not okay, can you be specific as to when it would be okay to interrupt you?

My Little Pornicorn shows up to offer some sage relationship advice to these two, dusty lovebirds!

REID’S RECOMMENDED LIST OF BURNING MAN RELATIONSHIP RULES

This is by no means a complete list. Your milage may vary.

1. Attend BM as “free agents,” meaning that you each can do as you please without having to “check-in” or get permission from the other.
(Note, this does not mean you are single, but that you’re a couple who’ve negotiated Burning Man Hallpasses for yourselves, which only works when you have an idea of the answers for each of you from the “Conversation Starters List” above…)
2. Each person gets their own tent. (You can sleep in the same tent every night if you want, but only because that’s what you want, not because it’s an obligation. Plus, this gives you each a private space of your own to decompress if you need.)
2a. Assume each night that you won’t be sleeping in the same tent or having to wake up next to one another. (This helps in case one or both of you gets sucked into the “flow” of Burning Man and ends up not coming home till dawn, or wakes up before the other and wants to trek out on an adventure. This way you don’t have to worry that you’re breaking agreements or screwing up somehow.)
3. Decide if you’re going to go to see the Man burn together, even if it’s as a group. If the answer is yes, work hard not to get separated until after the Man falls. (This helps you both navigate and not “make wrong” if one of you gets sucked away from the other when the Man falls (which is easy to have happen), and it allows you both to enjoy the experience together but not necessarily have to finish it together or at the same time. (Do note that getting back to camp after the Man falls can get confusing ’cause people steal the street signs! Good luck!)
4. Do find–if you can–a fun, agreeable time every day or other day or so for you two to meetup and check-in, share about the adventures of the previous night, and generally exalt one another for being so fucking awesome and looking so good covered in playa dust!
5. SAFER SEX. Period. Always have the Safer Sex Conversation, and, at the very least: Use condoms for penetrative sex. (Which means that you should bring safer sex supplies to the playa!)
6. Since BM is sensory overload on steriods, plan for alone time away from each other (and your campmates, too). This can mean that you choose to be with others. Alone time away from each other can look like lots of things. The main thing is that it’s that you’re-not-together time. Trust me on this one.
7. Plan separate adventures and strike out on your own! (May I recommend journeying to the deep playa or visiting the Trash Fence?)
8. If it feels good, go on an adventure together and intentionally plan to split up and go on your own ways instead of returning to camp together. (Due to the chaotic and flowing nature of BM, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this approach rather than “Let’s meet up at __________ at such-and-such a time.”)(May I recommend journeying to the Temple together at dawn?)
9. Depending on answers from the Conversation Starters, agree or disagree if it’s okay to have sex with people in your same camp: In camp, in another camp, or not at all.
10. Depending on answers from the Conversation Starters, agree on how you two will be updating one another on your sexcapades.
11. The ‘Burning Man Rule of Relationships’ is in effect, meaning that: You agree to not break up while on the playa and for at least 2-to-3 weeks following the Burn. (I also highly recommend adding to this rule that you will not attempt to consciously impregnate someone or be impregnated. Just saying.)

Go HERE for some to find out what’s in Reid’s BM Sex Gear Bag!

To my dear friends and sex geeks,

For many people, talking about sex and intimacy feels like going to the dentist. I spend a lot of time combining communication skill sets, humor and accurate sexual health information when I teach or lecture to role model that sex doesn’t have to be the monstrous evil or awkward conversation stopper that the rest of the world makes it out to be. This is why I am such an advocate of  Dixie De La Tour’s Bawdy Storytelling event, why I wear my “I’m a Bawdy Storyteller” pin proudly, am a self-proclaimed Bawdy-Addict, and why I’ve created this page to say so (and show so!).

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Phone sex with my girlfriend while under FBI phone tap? But of course! ONLY at Bawdy...

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Knowing where to draw the line together and how to talk about it can save you both a ton of headache the next day!

Navigating group sexual dynamics in any relationship takes skill, patience and a little bit of luck. If “luck” is where opportunity and preparation meet, then learning how to negotiate sound relationship boundaries and agreements is a sure-fire way to make the two, or three, or four of you the luckiest people on Earth!

With the dizzying array of relationship options available to people who’ve decided to “play well with others,” how do you, and your partner or partners (if you’ve got any), figure out what will work best? What is open to renegotiation? And what do you do when the inevitable challenges arise or when someone makes a bad call?

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for a two-hour workshop devoted to single people, couples, and multiple partners who want to learn how to create workable boundaries and agreements for playing sexually with others simultaneously.

In this humorous, interactive evening, you will learn:

• The most common pitfalls of relationship agreements for group sex and how to avoid them
• How to figure out what a boundary is and where your boundaries exist, so all involved can negotiate a win-win!
• How and when to renegotiate an existing rule or agreement
• Negotiating techniques for when you’re the single person joining in with a couple or moresome
• How to merge different styles of “sexploration” in monogamy and nonmonagamy so that everyone has a decent chance of ending up happy “the day after”
• Five essential things that will help you survive any group sexploration
• How to work through upsets in ways that will make your relationships stronger

This workshop is open to couples and singles and moresomes of all sexual orientations and relationship statuses.

Whatever you level of experience and curiosity, whatever your relationship status or orientation, Reid promises an informative evening chocked-full of great communication and relationship skills!

Curious about booking Reid for a private class? Go HERE!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Learn the ins and outs of the modern day “play party,” ’cause orgies are sooooo Roman Empire!

• Do you label your relationships as “Monagmish” or “Mongamy-Plus?”
• Maybe the term “Swinger” or “Modern Relationship” more accurately describes you and your loved ones?
• Are you a Poly person with a penchant for having your multiple loves under the same comforter?
• Enjoy expressing your kinky tendencies while people watch or play nearby?
• Never been to a play party, but curious?
• Been to a play party but want to know more about etiquette?
• Love group events and want to throw your own?

If the relationship status “It’s Complicated” means something fun to you, this workshop might be juuuuust what you’re looking for!

Whether you’d like to be the “Hostess With the Mostess” and throw your own event, or just looking to spice up your love life, sex and relationship expert Reid of ReidAboutSex.com is going to provide you with juicy tips, great recommendations, and sound advice on how to make attending play parties or throwing ‘em yourself as simple and as powerful as they can be.

In this 2-hour, humor-filled workshop, where Reid is sure to make you laugh and you’ll get plenty of chances to ask questions, we’ll cover:

• What a play party is and why you’d want to go in the first place!
• The basic types of play parties that are being thrown these days and where to find ‘em!
• The nuts and bolts and “ins and outs” of play party etiquette
• The differences -if any- between swinger events, poly play parties, and other types of play events
• Things you must talk about with your partners before attending your first play party
• How to attend a play event solo
• How to avoid being that “creepy person” or the “aggressive couple” at the orgy
• How to tell when you’re ready to attend your first play party and what to wear!!
• What you need to know to host an event of your own
• What to say to your partners and community if you want to attend or throw an event
• Who to invite!

Whatever you level of experience, whatever your relationship status or orientation, Reid promises an informative evening chocked-full of great communication and relationship skills!

Curious about booking Reid for a private class? Go HERE!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Kick-off your weekend Pink party by doubling your pleasure!

The ménage à trois is a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky.

Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for this special PrePink, R-rated, fun-filled, interactive playshop quickie (just 75-minutes long, with live demonstrations!)…

Date: Friday, June 10th, 2011
PrePink Playshop: 9-10:15pm
Pink Party: 10pm-3am
Cost: FREE with paid Pink admission!
Where: San Fran’s famous Mission Control where sassy, adult events are for members only!

Become a member, of Mission Control today! It’s free and instant!
Pink is a private event. 21 and over only (we check ID!) No alcohol will be served at Pink.
PAL required for Pink. See our PAL page for details.

Not only will you get a chance to ask questions in this informative workshop quickie, but we’ll cover:

• What are the best techniques to satisfy two lovers at once?
• Ways to overcome fears and concerns – Yours AND your partner’s!
• The most common threesome mistakes (and how to avoid them!)
• How to negotiate boundaries and safer sex protocols to make your next menage a trios tré bien!

Interested in M-F-M threesomes, F-M-F threesomes, F-F-F threesomes or M-M-M threesomes?… Whether you’ve had more threesomes than Jim Morrison or are just beginning to consider three-in-a-bed might be something you’d like to explore, this workshop will give you plenty of tools, tricks, perspectives and laughs to enhance your love life and strengthen your relationships!

Bring your loved ones, bring your friends, to Mission Control and enjoy kicking-off a sexy, sassy Friday night with this educational and entertaining quickie on how to successfully navigate one of the most common sexual fantasies: the threesome!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Learn the ins and outs of the modern day “play party” ’cause orgies are sooooo Roman Empire!

• Do you label your relationships as “Monagmish” or “Mongamy-Plus?”
• Maybe the term “Swinger” or “Modern Relationship” more accurately describes you and your loved ones?
• Are you a Poly person with a penchant for having your multiple loves under the same comforter?
• Enjoy expressing your kinky tendencies while people watch or play nearby?
• Never been to a play party, but curious?
• Been to a play party but want to know more about etiquette?
• Love group events and want to throw your own?

If the relationship status “It’s Complicated” means something fun to you, this workshop might be juuuuust what you’re looking for!

Whether you’d like to be the “Hostess With the Mostess” and throw your own event, or just looking to spice up your love life, sex and relationship expert Reid of ReidAboutSex.com is going to provide you with juicy tips, great recommendations, and sound advice on how to make attending play parties or throwing ‘em yourself as simple and as powerful as they can be.

See Reid two nights in a row!

DATE:
Wed, May 25th – Play Parties: How To Thow ‘Em and How to Attend ‘Em!
Thurs, May 26th – Getting Ready to Play: Negotiating Open Relationships Boundaries and Agreements
TIME: 7:30-9:30 p.m., both nights!
Cost: $20 Advance/$25 Walk-In
WHERE: Pure Pleasure, 204 Church Street, Santa Cruz CA 95060

Due to the center’s limited space RSVP early!

In this 2-hour, humor-filled workshop, where Reid is sure to make you laugh and you’ll get plenty of chances to ask questions, we’ll cover:

• What a play party is and why you’d want to go in the first place!
• The basic types of play parties that are being thrown these days and where to find ‘em!
• The nuts and bolts and “ins and outs” of play party etiquette
• The differences -if any- between swinger events, poly play parties, and other types of play events
• Things you must talk about with your partners before attending your first play party
• How to attend a play event solo
• How to avoid being that “creepy person” or the “aggressive couple” at the orgy
• How to tell when you’re ready to attend your first play party and what to wear!!
• What you need to know to host an event of your own
• What to say to your partners and community if you want to attend or throw an event
• Who to invite!

Whatever you level of experience, whatever your relationship status or orientation, Reid promises an informative evening chocked-full of great communication and relationship skills!

Curious about booking Reid for a private class? Go HERE!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Knowing where to draw the line together and how to talk about it can save you both a ton of headache the next day!

Navigating group sexual dynamics in any relationship takes skill, patience and a little bit of luck. If “luck” is where opportunity and preparation meet, then learning how to negotiate sound relationship boundaries and agreements is a sure-fire way to make the two, or three, or four of you the luckiest people on Earth!

With the dizzying array of relationship options available to people who’ve decided to “play well with others,” how do you, and your partner or partners (if you’ve got any), figure out what will work best? What is open to renegotiation? And what do you do when the inevitable challenges arise or when someone makes a bad call?

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko for a two-hour workshop devoted to single people, couples, and multiple partners who want to learn how to create workable boundaries and agreements for playing sexually with others simultaneously.

In this humorous, interactive evening, you will learn:

• The most common pitfalls of relationship agreements for group sex and how to avoid them
• How to figure out what a boundary is and where your boundaries exist, so all involved can negotiate a win-win
• How and when to renegotiate an existing rule or agreement
• Negotiating techniques for when you’re the single person joining in with a couple or moresome
• How to merge different styles of “sexploration” in monogamy and nonmonagamy so that everyone has a decent chance of ending up happy “the day after”
• Five essential things that will help you survive any group sexploration
• How to work through upsets in ways that will make your relationships stronger

This workshop is open to couples and singles and moresomes of all sexual orientations and relationship statuses.

See Reid two nights in a row!

DATE:
Wed, May 25th – Play Parties: How To Thow ‘Em and How to Attend ‘Em!
Thurs, May 26th – Getting Ready to Play: Negotiating Open Relationships Boundaries and Agreements
TIME: 7:30-9:30 p.m., both nights!
Cost: $20 Advance/$25 Walk-In
WHERE: Pure Pleasure, 204 Church Street, Santa Cruz CA 95060

Due to the center’s limited space RSVP early!

Whatever you level of experience and curiosity, whatever your relationship status or orientation, Reid promises an informative evening chocked-full of great communication and relationship skills!

Curious about booking Reid for a private class? Go HERE!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Double your pleasure without destroying your relationships…

The menage a trios is a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky.

Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for this R-rated, fun-filled, two-hour workshop (with live demonstrations!)…

Date: Thurs, March 24th
Time: 7-9pm
Cost: FREE!
Where: Fascinations, Phoenix, AZ – Go HERE to for store location!

Not only will you get a chance to ask questions in this 2-hour workshop, but we’ll cover:

• What are the best techniques to satisfy two lovers at once?
• Ways to overcome fears and concerns – Yours AND your partner’s!
• The most common threesome mistakes (and how to avoid them!)
• How to negotiate boundaries and safer sex protocols to make your next menage a trios tré bien!

Interested in M-F-M threesomes, F-M-F threesomes, F-F-F threesomes or M-M-M threesomes?… Whether you’ve had more threesomes than Jim Morrison or are just beginning to consider three-in-a-bed might be something you’d like to explore, this workshop will give you plenty of tools, tricks, perspectives and laughs to enhance your love life and strengthen your relationships!

Bring your loved ones, bring your friends, and enjoy an educational and entertaining evening on how to successfully navigate one of the most common sexual fantasies: the threesome!

Even if you would NEVER be interested in a 3-way, this fun-filled class will give you lots of ways to talk to your loved ones about the things you DO WANT in the bedroom – no matter how tame or outrageous!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

Opening up any relationship takes skill, patience and perseverance. Mistakes will be made. But why make any more than you have to?

Dating several people at once, and want to learn how to do it with panache? You’ve heard about polyamory and swinging, but still can’t figure out how it works, why anyone would choose it, or where to start? You enjoy being monogamous, but suspect that you and your significant other might more “monogam’ish…”

With the dizzying array of relationship options available to people who’ve decided to go “off the map,” how do you, and your partner (if you’ve got one), plot a course that works? And what do you do when the inevitable challenges arise?

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko for a two-hour workshop devoted to single people, couples, and multiple partners who are curious about or are already charting new courses in the “open seas” of their relationship lives.

In this interactive, revealing evening, you will learn:

• The most common pitfalls of open relationships and how to avoid them
• How to  merge different styles of nonmonagamy so that everyone ends up happy
• Five things that will help you survive any open relationship exploration
• The secret key to turning jealousy into a blessing

This workshop is open to couples and singles of all sexual orientations and relationship statuses.

See Reid two nights in a row!

Tuesday, March 8th - Navigating Open Relationship with Reid Mihalko
Wednesday, March 9th – The Full Body Kiss with Reid Mihalko
TIME: 8-10pm
WHERE: LA’s historic Pleasure Chest
7733 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90046
Cost: FREE both evenings!
First come, first served seating, so get there early!
Questions? Call The Pleasure Chest @ 323.650.1022

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.