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Reid’s Teleclass of Teleclasses! – Learn How to Run Teleclasses Now…

Reid — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:22:01 +0000

5-Weeks to Designing and Running Your Own Teleclass, Made Easy…

“I loved the part you got to on tonight’s call about getting your mentor/peer/s on a one on one interview and that don’t have to have others call-in to record it. That sounds perfect! The one area I am never struck on is appreciating the awesome minds, hearts and energies of those around me, so interviews may be how it all begins for me. I think I will prefer webinars over the phone, just because face-to-face always works soooo much for me, but maybe I just have to give a teleclass a chance. ”

~Monique, Utah

The Five Week Teleclass Series Where Reid Shows You How To… Run You’re your Own Teleclasses!

What this teleclass includes:

Five 75-minute Calls,
Weekly, Downloadable Homework Assignments for you to set up your first teleclass
Downloads from two existing Reid Teleclasses for you to listen to for FREE!
Plus One 30-minute wrap-up mentoring session at the end of the course with Reid Mihalko

Teach workshops? Want a fun and effective way to extend your reach? Looking to grab new clients, and test new material in fast, easy, and economical ways? Finding that you need a low ticket price item to get people who are worried about the economy to work with you? Itching to offer Teleclasses but feel stuck because you don’t know where to start? Been on one of Reid’s successful Teleclasses and want to know his secrets to doing so many so fast?

Join world renowned and prolific sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko as he invites you to learn his secrets to cheap, effective promotion and collaboration: the Teleclass!

Expand the reach of your existing offerings by offering teleclasses where potential and existing clients can participate in your teachings from the comfort of their own homes.

In this 5-Week Series of Calls you will learn…

Why and how offering Teleclasses can increase your business
How to run and promote a teleclass for FREE
How to record your teleclass and sell it to future customers at a later date as a downloadable MP3
What systems and programs Reid uses and why
How to design a teleclass in less than two hours!
How to invite collaborators to donate their time and expertise to your teleclass for FREE!

Anyone can run a professional sounding teleclasses for next to nothing and have their results improve their business and expert standing!

Particiapants in this “Teleclass on Teleclasses” will receive, for free, TWO OF REID’S EXISTING TELECLASS RECORDINGS to listen to as examples (a $30 to $197 value in and of itself).

Attention Lifecouaches, Sex Educators, Tantra Practioners and Workshop Leaders: Auditing the teleclasses alone are worth it and will benefit your practice and business. Register now and be running your own Teleclasses by Summer’s End, just like Reid!

What you get:

Six 75-minute Calls
Weekly Homework Assignments to set up your first teleclass!
Free Admission to two telecalls of Reid’s 4-week long, Battling the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy telecourse ($99 teleclass in and of itself)
One 30-minute wrap-up mentoring session at the end of the course with Reid Mihalko

COST: $197 for everything!

Podcasts Recorded July thru August of 2009

“Loved call 3. Thank you. The class and the homework is shooting my creativity and inspiration to crazy heights. Thank you so much.”

~ T.M.

As with all of his products, Reid’s got a 100% Money Back Gaurantee! If, upon completing the course, you’re not fully satisfied, just ask and get your money back! What have you got to lose?

Synergy Discussion with Reid: Part of Reid’s Professional Series…

Reid — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:44:19 +0000

Greetings, Peers and Friends!

This is an invitation to a professional discussion, one of an eventual series…

As many of you may have noticed, I’m developing my “Reid Mihalko, sex and relationship educator” brand and business into two distinct arms or offerings.

There is the arm devoted to sex and relationship education for adults (“Muggles” to steal a term I’m fond of from the Harry Potter book), and then there is the “professional arm” focusing on working with people who work with people in the areas of sex and relationships.

For many of us educators, healers, teachers and workshop leaders there comes a point where our life or business, or our creative force and ability to manifest what we want in our lives, reaches a level where we begin to experience what I like to call the “wobble” or “shimmy” of being powerful.

What is the wobble of being powerful, you ask?

Much like an automobile that runs perfectly well when you’re cruising down the highway at 65mph but begins to shake and rattle when you accelerate to 66 and faster, our lives and careers can feel fine and then, at a certain pace or flow, begin to vibrate, and not in a good way.

The wobble or shimmy, as near as I have been able to figure it out, comes from having a part of your life or buinsess out of alignment, and it doesn’t have to be that out of wack to make a horrible racket, but we often don’t begin to notice where our lives or our career is out of alignment until things really begin moving fast.

While a slight wobble isn’t too dangerous or annoying at 66 or 68mph, and while things may seem “fine,” as our lives accelerate to 69, 75, 80mph and cruise along at that speed of manifestation, that shimmy puts an awful lot of unneccessary stress and wear and tear on our car… And that wear and tear, over an extended cruising time of being powerful and creating and manifesting, well, it can and will eventually create bigger problems.

And, of course, these bigger problems always seem to show up at the worst times, right? And don’t forget that they’ll usually show up when you’re life is really flowing and you’re cruising now at 85 or 90mph!

And while the car and mph analogy is just that, an analogy, I think the phenomenon is a valid one, and I think I’ve discovered and am living from a place where I’ve been able to prevent that shimmy from occurring while rocketing forward in my world.

And I want to invite you, my peers, to check it out and test me on it.

This recorded talk I’m inviting you to download I’m calling The Foundations of Facilitating with Synergy, and it is all about my personal thoughts and approaches my life and my work. The concept or approach, for lack of a better word, I’m calling Synergy.

This download is the first part of a talk I gave at a recent Tantra Conference’s Advanced Intensive Teachers Training. This talk is something that I’m both very proud of and nervous to share.

Why am I nervous? Because I don’t usually come out and blatantly share about my inner practice and approach to being who I am and doing my work. That is, until now.

What is Synergy?

Synergy is the combination of 2 out of 3 principles in your life in combination with a fourth quality. And, it’s my belief that having two out of the three principles working in your life on a daily basis begins to give one a certain amount of “presence” or charisma or “gravitas.” It also creates for your life a certain, undeniable momentum.

I think this is why I “occur” as so charismatic to so many even though my life and my business are prone to the same ups and downs we all get bombarded with. It is why, I think, people feel that I am a creative “force to be reckoned with,” and why I have access to so much creative energy and followthrough.

And what are these mysterious qualities or principles that go into creating Synergy, you might be thinking? Hmmmmm…

Those first three qualities are Alignment, Intention and Impeccability. The fourth quality is Vulnerabilty (which I think can be interchanged with the word Transparency).

When you have any two of the three combined with Transparency, I believe you gain access to a whole new dimension or level of empowerment.

Have three out of three combined with that fourth aspect and you’re one of those people who, when they walk into a room or on stage, has a palpable effect on the dynamics of the room or the dynamics of your one-on-one interactions. You begin to resonate for others as a “force to be reckoned with.” No matter what your style or expression is, people respond to you. No matter if you’re the strong, silent type or the animated, gregarious crowd pleaser or the mild mannered, always curious and listening type, people take notice and are drawn to your sense of self and the conviction and clarity you radiate.

I invite you to download this recording and take a leap of faith with me.

The leap of faith is that after you listen to this recording, you give me 90-minutes of your time to answer your questions about the contents of this recording and for the group of us to exchange thoughts and ideas on how to best implement the concept of Synergy in our work and lives.

Whether it’s in your dating life, your business, or your spiritual practice, how can you create more synergy between your intentions, your impeccability, and bring them into alignment with your calling? And how can you be more transparent about all of it?

If, after the calls, it wasn’t totally worth your time, meaning that you didn’t get your money’s worth out of the

experience, I’ll give you your money back.

Will you trust me on this? Take the leap with me? Dance this dance?

I don’t often go this deep with my peers and colleagues, and it’s vulnerable for me to lay it all out on the line for you to listen to and then dial-in and hold my feet over the coals, but that’s what transparency and vulnerability are all about, yes?

And attempting to role model these concepts is one of the best ways I know to hone my abilities!

The cost to you is $47 for the download, access to the discussion call (which will be recorded as well and available for download, too, in case you miss it), and, of course, your time and focus in listening to these.

The Group Discussion Call will be on July 8th, from 5-6:30pm EST/2-3:30pm Pacific

If at any time, you aren’t getting your money’s worth, simply email me and say, “Reid, thanks for the opportunity and I’d like my money refunded,” and I’ll make it so.

That’s it. That’s all I wanted to share. Below, you can find a bunch of quotes that I grabbed from the recording. Yes, the quotes are there to tantalize you further into registering. See? Transparency at work!

Hope this post was worth your time.

Yours in amazingly powerful education,

Reid

Some of Reid’s Notes from the Talk…

Please understand that these below are my notes from the talk and

are not supposed to be grammatically perfect or make complete sense.

Use ‘em at your own risk! : )

Alignment is built out of authentic self-expression.

Alignment = the wheels on the car

Intention = seeing out the window + the map (knowing where you’re going).

Presence starts to “occur” when 2 out of 3 are in sync: intention and alignment and impeccability/integrity

Without a target (an intention), your action has a tendency to become “clunky” and fuzzy.

“Sex is fuzzy enough. And if you haven’t done the work with yourself, you have an inability to be clear with your client. And that fuzziness (and we’re ALL going through our own learning curve process always)… You being fuzzy with your clients is you being out of integrity. You’re not being impeccable.”

~ Reid

Alignment/Intention/Impeccability = is what I am calling Synergy

Impeccability/Integrity = Doing what you say you’re going to do.

Action is involved. And some sort of declaration – verbal or otherwise.

“It’s okay for your integrity to get loose. It’s like a drum head or a guitar. You tighten it up or tune it up. You’re not trying to build a guitar that never goes out of tune… The question is, How quickly do you notice that the guitar is out of tune and tune it?”

~ Reid

Without the awareness or a support group that brings it to your awareness or the ability/willingness to take action, you can’t get back into your integrity.

Impeccability…

The historical origins of the word impeccability come from the Bible and means “without sin.” For me, it means always shooting for 110%, not necessarily reaching that, but at least striving to reach those standards as best you can….

If shooting for 110% truly is your commitment and you show up like that, and you admit and apologize when those things do not happen at that level and you take responsibility to get them done to that degree or you change the agreement consciously and verbally communicate it to all parties involved… That is what “to be impeccable” is, I think.

Impeccability and “Doing the Work”…

You’re standards are: 1. I’m going to show up when I don’t want to show up, 2. I’m going to do what I said I was going to do or I’m going to change the agreements, 3. I’m going to have the conversations around changing those agreements so that everyone can consent – they don’t have to agree or be happy about it, btw…. This is what “Doing the work” means to me. And when you can do it consistently… People will naturally begin to trust you, and as a teacher, that is tantamount!

With practice, doing something that goes against who I am and my alignment, it becomes a non-choice. I can’t even tempt myself with it.

“When you don’t know what your intention is, and you don’t know what your self-expression is, you’re left to “wandering” in what you’re doing in your life.”

~ Reid

“I feel my biggest stumbling block with impeccability is where and when I am not aware. It’s the awareness factor… Cultivating awareness cultivates power.”

– Baba Dez, founder of Sedona Temple

“If you were just a “regular” person and not a teacher, these things [integrity and impeccability] are hard enough! And you want to mid-wife people through their own experience and growth? These qualities are desperately important!”

~ Reid

On Using the Word “Try”…

Yoda said, “Try not. Do… or do not. There is no try,” and the book Conversations With God warned us that the Universe is literal and hears the word “try” as a directive equaling “attempt without success.”

I think saying “try” at a higher level of awareness can be about declaring your commitment consciously, which means you don’t have to be one of those “don’t ever say try” Nazis. Commitment without action isn’t commitment, really, so saying “I will try” without any underlying commitment is just lip service. Add to that the added dynamic if having a “commitment muscle” that isn’t particularly well exercised and you can begin to see how uttering “I will try” isn’t going to get you much.

At a higher level of consciousness, when you speak something into existence, you are saying from that manifestation part of you, “It will be so,” and you’re conscious of your intention and energetically turning what you say into action. You are declaring it. Add to this that what you’re declaring is in synergy with who you “Be” and at such a level of awareness, your saying “try” won’t usually bite you in the ass. (Emphasis on usually!) :)

Mastery = Turn-Around Time…

“The point is Turn-Around Time! And Turn-Around Time is basically: How quickly did you notice? How quickly did you take action? How effective was the action (and what should we keep and what needs to be adjusted for the future)? And then asking yourself, “What’s next?” and working on THAT.”

~ Reid

The Group Discussion Call will be on July 8th, from 5-6:30pm EST/2-3:30pm Pacific

1-on-1 Professional Mentoring

Reid — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:57:01 +0000

Thanks for being interested in working with me on a one-on-one basis around your work as a sex-positive professional.

What is Mentoring, anyway?

Mentoring is a lot like the relationship coaching work I do with individuals and couples interested in improving their relationships and their sex lives with one large distinction: mentoring is aimed at people who work with people.

Because sex educators have personal lives, too, my professional mentoring usually ends up being a mix of relationship coaching, peer support, as well as support and advice on business, branding and PR. To put it frankly, you’re paying to have full access to all my best practices in business and in my romantic relationships and all my mistakes so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel!

Basic Mentoring Info

How? And How Long?

Mentoring Sessions can take place either over the phone, on video chat software such as Skype, or in person when convenient. Sessions typically last from 60 to 90-minutes and can sometimes last as long as 3 to 4 hours.

Payment:

Cost for all mentoring, whether an Initial Session or Monthly Mentoring, exist on a sliding scale.

Why a sliding-scale? Two reasons…

1. As someone who works with people, helping them create sex lives and relationship lives of their dreams, you know all too well that it’s impossible to put a price tag our work. I find putting a hard figure on what I offer difficult as well. A sliding scale gives me an equitable target for what I need in exchange for my time and focus.

2. And though business advice is a little easier to “measure,” since we can calculate results in terms of dollars and cents, many of us working in the sex-positive and pleasure-positive realms aren’t actually swimming in cash-o-la. People who can afford to pay more allow me to work with those who can’t.

Your support in this is appreciated by all and it’s all on an honor system. Thanks in advance!

Initial Session Fees range from $150-$5000 per session. All I ask is that you pay what you can afford and pay at time of booking via PayPal to secure your slot. Payments can be made to workshops@reidmihalko.com.

$5K for 90-minutes! Really?

I swim in the waters of Hollywood, people! And some of those Hollywood sharks won’t take me seriously unless they’re writing me a BIG check. Having them take me and my work seriously makes my job easier in helping them, so I set my prices in a way that everybody wins.

Really, when you think about it, what’s the cost of not having to reinvent the wheel, from gaining access to all of my best practices, and not having to make the costly mistakes I made early on in my career? Is that worth a couple thousand dollars?

I certainly think so.

Booking Your Slot:

Unless otherwise arranged, your initial session slot is not secured until paid for. For those of you who choose to hire me on a monthly mentoring basis, you’ll pay me at the end of each month only if my mentoring was worth it! (See below for more on Monthly Mentoring)

If you’re on of those people who wants to pay me what I’m worth but “won’t know” till after we have our session, and you know you can afford to pay me much more than $150… If paying me post-Initial Session would give you more piece of mind and allow you to show up to our first session more powerfully, I’m cool with that, but let’s talk on the phone about that before hand so I can secure your slot sans payment.

24-hr Cancelation Policy for First-Time Sessions: I realize that schedules sometimes change last minute and I trust that you realize that our time together is valuable. With this in mind, please respect my 24-hr cancellation policy.

Please alert me, asap, of your cancellation via phone at 917.207.4554. Leave a voice mail if I can’t pick up and I will get back to you as soon as I can to reschedule your session.

In the event of less-than-24-hour notice, you will be charged for your session. However, if I can move another client into your slot (or you can persuade a friend, partner or colleague to sign up to fill the opening - hint, hint), then it’s all good and you will not be charged. Your support in this helps both of us since I often cannot move people into others’ slots. But, it’s worth a try, right?

Reid’s Monthly Mentoring

Every mentoring relationship begins with an initial session, which is basically our “first date.” And you’re buying, btw.

Because I take my mentorships very seriously, I won’t book someone for a Monthly Mentoring Package until we test the waters and see if we’re a “good fit” for one another. If, after our Initial Session, we both agree that the fit is good, we can talk about Monthly Mentoring.

Why monthly?

Unless you’re wanting to get something very specific and it’s something that we can cover in an hour or three, I strongly recommend creating an indefinite Monthly Mentoring situation where I can support you until you don’t need or wish to retain my support anymore. And here’s the kicker: you pay me at the end of each month based on how good I was!

Reid, you’re telling me, if you suck, I don’t have to pay?!

Yep, if I suck, or was less than what you needed, you get that month of mentoring for free and our monthly agreement becomes null and void!

Why should you owe me money if I’m the one who’s not delivering?

This is how serious I take my mentoring. You pay me what we agreed our rate would be at the end of the month only if our working together was WORTH IT.

If, at any time, we come to the end of the month and you have even the slightest hesitation about my value to you as a mentor, that’s your signal for us to “break-up.” You simply tell me that you’re not getting what you need from me and we’re done. I’m not going to take your money for that month and no hard feelings. Seriously. It’s that simple and straightforward. I don’t want you second guessing if our working together is worth it, ever.

This is highly unconventional. Why do your mentoring this way?

You paying me at the end of the month motivates me to over deliver and not “just phone in” my advice and coaching. It inspires me to keep kicking ass in your world, which is what you deserve from your mentor! And it motivates you to stay present and evaluate how our work is of value to you. And it prevents you from becoming one of those “clients who can’t break it off,” which is an unhealthy relationship that serves neither of us.

Indefinite? You mean, like, you’re my mentor forever, if I feel like I’m getting my money’s worth?

LOL! Kind of, yes… To be clear: I can, and may, choose to stop mentoring you, too. We both have the right to change our minds and our agreements. Mentorship, like Tango, takes two willing partners! And while you may be getting a ton of value from our working together, you may need to put things on hold or transition things for whatever reason – family, finances, health, etc. And given my career trajectory, there may come a time when I can no longer devote the time and focus to mentoring you in the way that you deserve. If that happens, out of respect and integrity to you and myself, I will call it quits.

And why do I want you as my mentor for months on end, again?

The principle behind Monthly Mentoring is this: If you’re looking to gain or create or get something out of our time together and I help you achieve whatever that is for you, then there’s a darned good chance that I can help you hone in on what’s next for you. And once we figure out what’s next on your To Do list, why not just continue our arrangement?

No matter how good and how successful we become, there is always a What’s next to create and achieve!

Unlike relationship coaching where working with me for years on end might be a sign of dysfunction and codependency, on-going mentorship is only a bad thing if no value is gained from it. Think of it this way: You’re a golfer who’s trying to take your game to the next level… What would it be like having Tiger Woods as your personal caddy? (Without the sex scandal, mind you!)

I’m constantly growing and learning and honing my business, too, and I love sharing my triumphs with my peers. That is what mentoring is all about for me! What would it be like to have someone who’s great at the things you’re trying to become great at as your own personal “caddy?” You and I working together indefinitely is, in this case, an advantage. That’s why I don’t put time-constraints on my mentoring, but do put time constraints on my relationship coaching.

How Monthly Mentoring Works…

Unlike Relationship Coaching which has set appointments, Monthly Mentoring is all about working together as much as is needed. Some months we might have two or three or more sessions, another month we might speak only once and email a bunch. Monthly Mentoring is about supporting you in ways for you to win, not about “Every 2nd Monday, from 3pm to 4pm.”

What you can expect is a lot of checking in on your progress. Lots of homework. And lots of thinking and action on your part. Be prepared to work ’cause I’ve got lots to share and I am committed to not wasting your time or mine!

Sessions can be in-person when convenient, over video conferencing like Skype, on the phone, or on email. They can be as short like a 20-minute check-in or as long as a 3-4 hours. We might even create a longer “home-work day” where you and I work side-by-side on a project. It all depends. We’ll create what’s most useful and effective based on the situation at hand, just like life!

Together, through frank and practical one-on-one conversations, we’ll take what we began to lay out in our Initial Session and work from there. You and I will delve deeper into what it is you’d like to create and/or transform and how to make that a reality. By getting clear on what you’d like to create, where you are feeling blocked, where your business or practice is at currently, and what your “not-at-work” relationship reality is, you and I will figure out how best I can serve and support you and what our next steps are going to be and how best to leap into action!

Along the way, I’ll brain dump as much of my “Reid kung-fu” as I can!

Monthly Mentoring Schedules:

Please remember that I travel a lot and won’t be able to meet with you face to face always. And, because mentoring is about support and isn’t about “Every 2nd Monday, from 3pm to 4pm,” our schedule is going to fluctuate from month to month according to our needs. If you’re one of those types who’s reading this thinking, “But I work really, really well with a steady time slot,” don’t fret! I’ve got you covered. You’ll get a steady time-slot and we’ll work from there! See how easy that was?

If our working together face-to-face is really important to you, and it’s not going to crush you financially, feel free to fly me in for our sessions! I’m probably not going to say no, but we should discuss the best ways to leverage such an arrangement in advance, okay? Just ask.

Monthly Session Package Costs:

Monthly packages are also on a sliding-scale system and cost $600-$5,000/month.

Just in case you’re feeling flush with cash, if you pay in-full for 3-months of mentoring, I would like to gift three of your friends, colleagues, partners or family members with a FREE, 60-90 minute mentoring SESSION each. Doing this kind of growth can be difficult to do alone, so how about you don’t have to! Share my work with a friend so at least they know what you’re talking about when you tell them that I’m working your ass off and you’re loving it!

What if I don’t want the Monthly Mentoring? Can I just book a bunch of sessions with you as I need ‘em?

The answer is yes, you can. However, “a’la carte” mentoring doesn’t get you the same level of “24-7″ support and priority in my day-to-day life that my Monthly Mentoring clients receive.

Custom Packages

While Monthly Mentoring, “a’la carte” mentoring, and Initial Sessions cover most people’s needs, occasionally the need for a custom package comes up. I’m always willing to work with individuals and to find something that works for everyone, just ask.

Recommendations

Occasionally, I may recommend that you see someone for work in areas, or when a “change of face” might unblock you in a certain area. While not mandatory, I ask that you seriously consider my recommendations. And, FYI, I’ve been known to take Monthly Mentoring clients on field trips too. (I’m crazy like that!)

Reid’s Type of Mentoring

The type of mentoring I do, like my relationship coaching is much more “tweaking” than “overhauling” people’s lives or businesses. I’m not a business school or University or Madison Avenue PR firm. I’m a sex and relationship expert and media geek. So, if what you’re looking for is a degree in business, to become a certified health care professional, or someone to create and execute your next ad campaign, then the type of mentoring you’re looking for is something vastly different than what I specialize in. I’d suggest getting your MBA, going to med school, or hiring a PR firm.

Other Types of Mentoring Basic Info

Besides the usual one-on-one sessions, I offer other types of mentoring sessions, too…

Hands-On Body Work

As people who work with people whether it be as an educator, a healer, or an activist, too many of us forget to take a day off and receive! The result is that we become depleted and burn out.

Hands-On Body Work sessions cover a wide range of areas and topics and are customized on a client-by-client basis. They can last anywhere between 60-minutes and two and a half hours.

Couples Mentoring for Sex-Positive Professionals

It can be hard enough just being a pleasure-positive professional, right? Now imagine dating and falling in love with one!… As a successful sex educator with a long history of success in my personal relationships, if you’re experiencing difficulty in your relationship life, let’s see if I can’t help. Couples Mentoring, like One-On-One Mentoring Sessions and Relationship Coaching Sessions, usually last between 60 and 90-minutes. Please do not confuse the mentoring, coaching and education I offer with therapy or counseling. It’s not. I am not a therapist nor am I a counselor.

R&D and Play Sessions

I used to be a martial arts instructor and there came a time when, as a teacher, what I realized I needed to further my technique and skill levels was to “mess it up” with other black belts, to spar, to exchange techniques and play around. Being a sex educator is, in many ways, like being a black belt and sometimes what we need most is someone who’s just as skilled as we are to practice on, explore and frolic with, and “open up on.” I like to call this “R&D (Research and Development) and Play.”

R&D and Play are a lot like a musician jam session or a private, free flowing workshop where it’s just you and I working on whatever it is you want to work on. R&D/Play Sessions may last between 90-minutes and two hours depending on where the energy takes us or what we’re trying to explore/work on.

Community Privates

Most of my workshop and teleclass offerings are available for private booking for you, your loved ones, your groups and communities. Just ask and let me do a private workshop for you and yours!

Book a Mentoring Session by emailing me at reid (at) reidaboutsex (dot) com or phoning me at 917.207.4554