Let Reid Mihalko help you figure out “how to figure out” (and how to communicate) what you need to make your relationships work best!

No matter whether your single, dating, married, monogamous or polyamorous, if you don’t know what works for you and how to communicate it, you’re in for trouble….

If you haven’t a clue what your boundaries are, if you “kinda know ‘em” but could use some more clarity, or if you know them but don’t know how to put them into words, this 2-hours is for you!

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for a humorous and pragmatic, PG-13 rated, 2-hours of relationship negotiation made simple. Learn black belt relationship skills in how to figure out what your needs are in love and romance, the needs of your partners, and how to put it all into words!

Date: Friday,  13th, 2010
Time: 7-9pm
Location: The Sharma Center
Cost: $15 pre-register, $20 at the door
Due to the center’s limited space (40 people tops!), the address is only given out after you RSVP • Please RSVP for all Sharma Center Events at rsvp@sharmacenter.org • Please call on the day of the event 206-898-5876 for availability if you haven’t RSVP’d.

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Battling the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy!

4-Call Podclass on Overcoming Jealousy by Understanding
and Taming Your Emotional Monsters
with Reid Mihalko

Four 90-minute Teleclasses Recordings,
Weekly Jealousy Homework Assignments,
PLUS a One-On-One, 60-minute wrap-up coaching session
with Reid Mihalko

When it comes to jealousy, many of us are left feeling like superstitious sailors who whisper of an almighty leviathan that will inevitably come for us. And when the Green-Eyed Monster rises from our emotional depths, we usually find ourselves powerless to stop it’s many arms from tearing our relationship-world apart.  Join sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for his latest informative and humorous teleclass designed to help you tackle the ugly, eight-tentacled octopus of jealousy!

Begin to Beat Jealousy from the Comfort of Your Own Home or Office!

In this 4-call podclass program, designed as a follow-up to Reid’s Day of Jealousy event, Reid will guide you through ideas, discussions and homework assignments designed to bring you into deep connection with your emotions and give you the tools to not only mitigate your jealousy, but tame it!

In this unique teleclass, you will learn…

• Where your jealousy comes from and why we’re using an octopus as a metaphor
• How to distinguish Envy, Possessiveness, Anger, Depression, and Jealousy’s four other arms
• Valuable tools for dealing with each arm, especially when it’s your partner who is being attacked!
• Tools for mitigating your “jealousy triggers”
• What the corresponding qualities are for each arm of jealousy and how to use them them to bring down the beast
• To dramatically decrease your feelings of dread and anxiety around jealousy, and lessen Jealousy’s grip on those you care about
• Ways to communicate to your loved ones how they can make your world a less jealous one
• Boundary and negotiation skills for improving your relationships no matter what emotions you’re experiencing!

If you’d given up on dealing with jealousy or resigned yourself to a life of powerlessness, please join us for what is sure to be an insightful and extremely useful journey into the uncharted seas of being empowered around Jealousy!

Stop fearing your emotions! Learn how to Navigate your feelings with more ease! Begin the Journey to Conquering your Jealousy Today!

No need to travel to a distant city for a workshop!
Just Download and Listen and Learn!

Podclass Course Fee:
Only $97

REMEMBER: Upon completing the podclasses and the course homework, you get an Hour-Long, 1-On-1, follow-up phone coaching session with Reid himself! (This alone is worth several times the course fee so register asap!)

Register by Clicking the Button Above

Questions? Email Reid at reid (at) reidaboutsex (dot) com
or call 917.207.4554

A full, 100% money-back refund if you aren’t completely satisfied!

REID MIHALKO: Reid helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

4-hours of in depth, demystifying teachings revealing the secrets and nuances of Kundalini-opening sex!

• Curious about how yoga, breathwork, Tantra, your anatomy and your orgasm all fit together?
• Looking to take your lovemaking to higher levels of arousal and ecstasy?
• Curious if it’s possible to orgasm just by breathing???
• Want to knock your lovers’ socks not just off, but clear across the room?

Join sexperts Reid Mihalko and Sheri Winston for an afternoon of experiential, one-on-one and group learning designed to make Energetic Sex simple and attainable, and fun!

Think it’s impossible to orgasm just by breathing? Think again! Let Reid and Sheri show you what’s possible in the bedroom and beyond…

In this 4-hour, R-rated class with fully-clothed exercises and fully-clothed demonstrations, you will learn:

• The basics anatomy of human arousal, what Energetic Sex is, and how it works.
• How to use breathing to heighten your pleasure and orgasmic response, and even trigger orgasms.
• Exercises and practices you can take home and use today!
• Simple, pragmatic, non-”woo-woo” approaches to incorporating Energetic Sex and Breath-gasms into your bedroom activities tonight.
• Ways Energetic Sex and Breath-gasms can be applied to sexual dysfunctions and challenges in the bedroom.

Reid demonstrates an energetic orgasm and what he calls "Tantric Twitchies" (Kriyas) for the audience with the generous help of Amber Seitz at a workshop in Oakland

Date: Saturday, July 31st
Time: Noon-4pm
Location: Fruitopia event space
1080 23rd Ave, Ste. 110, Oakland 94606
Cost: $99 per person, $158 for two (Save 20%!)

1-Person for the Day

Buy 2 tickets and SAVE 20%!

This workshop is Rated-R. No nudity. No explicit sexual contact. Adult language, frank content. Reid’s no questions asked, money-back guarantee if you’re not fully satisfied.

HAVEN’T HAD YOUR FILL YET?

DON’T MOVE!!!

Join Reid and Sheri, Saturday evening, in the same location for:

IRON SLUT SEX EDUCATOR SHOWDOWN!…

ABOUT SHERI: Sheri Winston CNM, RN, BSN, LMT, is a medical professional, sexuality educator and author who is on a mission to transform our culture’s attitudes about sex.

Wholistic Sexuality Teacher and Counselor, Founder & Executive Director of the Center for the Intimate Arts, Sheri’s journey began when she became a licensed massage therapist in 1980. She soon discovered that she felt called to become a midwife and began assisting and apprenticing at home births. That was rapidly followed by becoming a childbirth educator and doula (someone who provides professional labor support). In order to become a legal midwife, she attended nursing school and graduated valedictorian, summa cum laude, receiving her BSN (Bachelor’s degree in Science of Nursing) and becoming a RN (registered nurse). Finally, she attended midwifery school for her graduate education, becoming a certified nurse-midwife and gynecology nurse-practitioner.

Sheri has always been a teacher. During her first two decades of clinical practice, Sheri Winston also taught Childbirth Education & WomanCraft, classes on pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and women’s health issues.* A decade ago, in response to a growing awareness of the need for accurate, comprehensive, accessible and empowering information about sex, she expanded into sexuality education and began development of what has become her major work, the Wholistic Sexuality Curriculum.

Sheri is now retired from clinical practice to focus full time on teaching Workshops and Counseling through the Center for the Intimate Arts. She also lectures and makes appearances around the country to talk about sex and Wholistic Sexuality. Sheri believes her twenty years in women’s health care have given her an excellent foundation for sexuality education and counseling, and formed her unique approach.  She has also studied a wide variety of holistic healing modalities including integral health, herbalism, energy healing, psychological and emotional healing, women’s health, and many hands-on healing techniques.

She feels that life is for learning and believes that her current calling is to help transform our culture into one that celebrates sex as our vital life force, as a source of ecstasy, and as the glue and lubricant of delicious intimate relationships. She invites you to make your own journey to empowering yourself with information about your body, your potential and about Wholistic Sexuality!

Reid Mihalko: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Get schooled in how to get schools with two of the busiest sexperts in the biz’ness!

• Are you a sex educator who’s interested in bringing your offerings to colleges and universities?
• Feeling the recession crunch in your self-promoted workshops and events and wishing someone would pay you to just show up and teach?
• Passionate about reaching college-aged adults but don’t know how?
• Dreaming of traveling around the country getting paid to do what you do best?
• Wish you could book paid speaking gigs in your area of expertise but not sure who to contact or where to start?
• Feeling envious of all the other workshop leaders and authors who’re traveling around the country getting paid to teach?

If you’re a yes to any of the above questions, this one day workshop is for you! Part brain-dump, part brainstorming session, all fun and information: Reid and Megan are going to download and share everything they know about booking paying gigs at colleges, organizations and stores!

Join sex and relationship educators (and gig booking experts) Reid Mihalko and Megan Andeloux (who’ve booked hundreds of paid gigs combined) for 3-hours focusing on how you can take your workshops, teaching and public speaking to the next level: Getting schools and organizations to pay you to show up and speak to rooms they fill for you!

Face it, it’s hard organizing, promoting, hosting and running your own events. Why not get organizations to pay you to show up and share what you’re passionate about!

In this 3-hour, evening workshop (with after-party), Reid and Megan will cover:

• How teaching and speaking at schools, organizations and stores works and why you should be considering doing it.
• What to expect, what to charge, and what not to do.
• Who to speak to, how to find them, and what to say to book a paid gig.
• What you should have on your website to book a gig and why.
• Things you can do to figure out if you’re ready to bring your work to colleges and universities.
• Some of Reid and Megan’s “Best of” and “Worst of” stories from teaching gigs, so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel!

During this workshop Reid and Megan will also mentor and lead you through brainstorming what you can do next to begin or upgrade the paid teaching gig part of your business!

Reid and a group of delighted college students after presenting one of his first ever "Stand-Up Sex Ed" comedy talks, which was to a packed room of over 200 students!

Date: July 21st
Time: 7-10pm with wrap party from 10-Midnite
Where: Reid’s workshop space in Oakland – 1080 23rd Ave, Ste. 110, Oakland 94606
Cost: Online Pre-pay: $99 per person, 2 for $89 each, 3somes and moresomes for $79; Day-off price: $120 per person at the Door
Wrap-Party from 10-Midnite. Free!

1-Person – $99 online, Early-Bird discount!

2-People – $89 Each! (Online price only)

3-people – $79 Each! (Online price only)

Groups larger than 3, contact Reid at reid (at) reidaboutsex.com
Take advantage of online, Early-Bird registration! At the door price day of event: $120

Can’t make the workshop, but you’re a sex educator, workshop leader, teacher or some other sex-positive professional? Come at 10pm for our workshop wrap-party and sex-positive community gathering. BYOB and snacks to share, and it’s free!

Megan Andelloux: Megan Andelloux is a nationally certified sexuality educator through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is a board certified sexologist through The American College of Sexologists. She is the founder and director of The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, a sexuality resource center located in Pawtucket, RI.

Ms. Andelloux has worked full-time in the field of Sexual Education for more than 12 years.  She is an Instructor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Boston University School of Medicine and lectures internationally at colleges, universities, medical schools, and sexuality institutions on issues surrounding sexual pleasure, sexual health, politics, and erotic justice. She developed the Gynecological Training Program for Boston University School of Medicine, and in addition works as a Gynecological Teaching Associate at medical institutions on the East coast.

Ms. Andelloux is a sought after media contributor for sexuality related issues in print, online, television and documentaries.  She is a regular contributor at www.carnalnation.com. and www.sexualhealth.com and is also an author in the book, We Got Issues, a Feminist Response to Cultural Attitudes On Feminism.

Reid Mihalko: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

Foundations of Facilitation Training, created by world renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski, is a weekend-long intensive program designed to provide you with the skills you need to create powerful, transformative workshops. Created by the inventors of Cuddle Party, this training will provide you with the tools you need to enhance your confidence, create new depth to your presentations, and improve your ability to create relatedness with just about anyone. Whether you are new to running events for groups, or have been facilitating for years, this interactive, hands-on training has much to offer.

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,

come spend the weekend with Reid!

“I took my first facilitator training 30 years ago, and it’s been a long, long time since I learned so much in one weekend.” — Ankha, Minnesota

Read this Extraordinary Testimonial from Madeleon HERE!

Over the course of the weekend, you will learn how to:

• create safe, non-sexual space to explore intimacy on both a personal and professional level
• lead workshops that leave your participants feeling touched, open, valued and nurtured
• generate an environment where women and men communicate more authentically
• listen profoundly
• create a powerful relatedness with strangers quickly and easily
• be more open to others and able to give and receive comfortably
• create strong boundaries for yourself without shutting others down

You will also learn:

• tools for building a strong, intimate community
• advanced tools for handling rejection
• communication techniques that open people up to discuss intimacy, desires, fears and needs

Foundations of Facilitation has trained over 200 men and women. They have consistently rated FoF as one of the best training workshops available… and these workshop junkies, facilitator black belts and self-help gurus know workshops!

“Most training weekends of this kind cost nearly a $1000. The Foundations of Facilitation training weekend is only $495 and comes with my money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So what have you got to loose? Come to Chicago and spend it with me!”

~Reid

2010's Oakland FOF Intensive Group after their Friday night Cuddle Party kick-off!

Whether you simply want to enhance your own leadership skills or become a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator, this is one weekend you won’t want to miss. Join us for one of our upcoming 2010 FoF training weekends:

Jun 18-20, 2010 in Santa Cruz, CA

Jun 25-27, 2010 in Chicago, IL with Reid Mihalko!

Sep 24-26, 2010 in Toronto, ON, Canada

Oct 01-03, 2010 in DC/Mid-Atlantic Area

Jan 21-23, 2011 in Atlanta (area), GA

Feb 25-27, 2011 in Oakland

Cheap Airfares to The Windy City AND Reid: What RU waiting for!?! by Airfarewatchdog.com

Change people’s lives. REGISTER NOW for Foundations of Facilitation Training. For more information, visit the training schedule or our Training FAQ.

“I encourage anyone with a hankering to become a CP facilitator to take the leap and DO IT!  It has been one of my greatest joys for the past 3 years…after all, how many people can say that they come to work in their p’j’s, get paid to touch and be touched and it’s legal?  <3″

— Edie Weinstein, Philledelphia, PA

“Of all the workshops I’ve attended, the [Foundations of Facilitation] Training has given me the most practical and useful tools to create and maintain direct, open and honest communication with EVERYONE in my life DAILY.”

— Tracy, Alabama

Cuddle Party creator, Reid Mihalko, leading a week’s worth of amazing education in the Windy City!

Chicago, IL • June 22-27th, 2010

• July 22nd: Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating
• July 23rd: Backdoor Luvin’: Anal Play for Beginners
• July 25th: Chicago Cuddle Party with Reid!
• July 25-27th: Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensive (See below)

Foundations of Facilitation Weekend with Reid

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,
come spend the weekend with Reid!

Click HERE for more info!

A.K.A., How I Went From Cuddle Parties to NC17…

Cuddle Parties don’t overtly deal with sex. Nor should they. But what should?

In today’s touch starved culture, Cuddle Party was (and still is) doing a great job of giving people a sunggle-O-licious laboratory to practice the foundational communication skills that make the world safe for touch and affection. And the world could stand to be more cuddle-friendly.

Skills like asking for what you want, the ability to change one’s mind (and communicate it), and being able to say No without feeling guilty are just as important when you’re naked between the sheets as when you and your friends are pajama-clad, hug-deep in a puppy pile. And while Cuddle Party is an amazing, interactive experience where people become better communicators of their needs and boundaries and learn how to create more affection and nurturing touch in their lives, I had nowhere of my own to send people who wanted to increase their sexual confidence in a more direct manner.

Let’s face it, the communication needs are similar, but spooning isn’t the same as forking. I’d created Cuddle Party. What other workshops could I create to meet the needs of this emerging demographic?

The answer was: many. And I did.

Let’s face it, the communication needs are similar, but spooning isn’t the same as forking.

I dusted off my workshop designing skills and created the Romance Is For the Cats and Dogs, the workshop I wrote about in last month’s newsletter. I began collaborating with all the sex educators I respected and began producing workshops and teleclasses on a host of topics, everything from Understanding Men and Women to overcoming the Green-Eyed Monster of jealousy. I did a teleclass on How To End a Bad Relationship, for those of us stuck in relationship hell and desperate to foster change in our lives. Some workshops were issue specific, and others were focused on lovestyles and the various types of relationships and experiences you might be drawn to, like my offerings for people exploring polyamory or people curious about experiencing a ménage a trios.

Oh, Three! Three is The Magic Number!

It’s when I designed the Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop (which lead to the Initiating Threesomes Teleclass), I came up with the idea that I could have volunteers from the audience role play the communication exercises with one another, and even help me create a fully clothed “Threesome Kama Sutra” on stage.

That’s when I had my first ah-ha moment!

Cuddly like Reid and Marcia? I don't think so!

Marcia Baczynski and I had been the Donnie and Marie Osmond of Cuddle Parties for nearly five years by then. I’d facilitated close to three-hundred and fifty Cuddle Parties, if not more, and had personally trained over a hundred men and women in the basics of how to facilitate Cuddle Parties. While being the Yoda of snuggling had honed my workshop facilitation and people skills to Jedi-like levels, I was itching to try new formats and topics. After five years worth of feedback and conversations with the thousands of Cuddle Party attendees, there was one thing that I noticed everyone was looking for regardless of whether is was an platonic hug or a steamy, romantic tryst: Everyone was looking for self-confidence.

After five years worth of feedback and conversations with the thousands of Cuddle Party attendees, there was one thing that I noticed everyone was looking for regardless of whether is was an platonic hug or a steamy, romantic tryst: Everyone was looking for self-confidence.

Self-esteem and confidence make us feel better. Feeling better about ourselves impacts those we love. They feel more safe and relaxed, which improves our interactions whether it’s at the breakfast table or in the bedroom.

When I set out to design workshops that weren’t Cuddle Party-related, I asked myself: What’s a common situation most folks have thought about once or twice. that seems incredibly daunting, which is also ripe with opportunities for awkward situations and clumsy mis-communications? The answer: Threesomes!

The ménage a trios provided the perfect workshop topic: The allure was there in that most folks have fantasized or at least wondered about ‘em, self-confidence was low in that most folks would probably admit to feeling less than equipped for initiating a successful three-way, and the communication skills needed to allow anyone to successfully explore such a fantasy are exactly the same ones we talk about in Cuddle Party… Bingo! I had my first workshop topic for teaching sexual self-confidence.

But how best to do that? Hmmmmm… Talking at an audience would be useful, but boring. A Power Point presentation might help, but still lacked the interactiveness that makes Cuddle Party so powerful for folks. “I couldn’t make a workshop on threesomes interactive,” I thought, “Or could I?”

Given my goofy, humorous sensibilities, and that lack-of-confidence in any situation leaves we humans prone to clumsiness and the dreaded “awkward moment,” the most powerful, interactive choice for a threesome works shop was to role play! Why not invite the audience to demonstrate exercises in a safe and humorous way, with my help, in front of the room?

Negotiating any fantasy is awkward, so let’s not hide it. Instead, let’s flaunt the awkwardness!

Negotiating any fantasy is awkward, so let’s not hide it. Instead, let’s flaunt the awkwardness! It was definitely more risqué and risky than Cuddle Party, but that would actually help. It would allow people to have their learning curves, to have fun with their nervous energy, and to laugh together as a group at how the road to great sex is often paved with silliness and awkward moments. And, like Cuddle Party, no one gets naked.

So, we gave the role playing exercises a test drive, and, boy, it was a hit!

Reid at Brown University in Providence, RI, illustrating how awkward (and funny) breaking the ice during romantic situations can be at his R-rated "Sex Educator Showdown."

Not only did we laugh ourselves silly, audience participation taught me that risqué can be not only fun, but safe as well! Titillating subject matter sprinkled with fully clothed audience participation demonstrations was an amazing education combo that was safe and popular. I no longer had to keeping things PG-rated to keep things safe.

The R-rated Reid Mihalko workshop was born!

People got so much out of watching and participating in this R-rated format full of games and exercises, that I created more. After Negotiating Successful Threesomes came The Full-Body Kiss, Clothes-On Sex!, and Bachelorette Sex Ed 101, to name a few.

The more I created and taught my R-rated workshops and heard the feedback from the participants, the more certain I became of the need for explicit education. It wasn’t that Cuddle Party’s PG-rating or an R-rated workshop were missing anything. Nothing was broken. There is a need for non-nudity, non-sexual workshops; however, once again around the area of sexual self-confidence, I saw the chance to deliver a particular type of learning opportunity…

Monkey See; Monkey Slam, Bam, Thank You, Ma’am!

It’s one thing for sex educators to talk about sex or show you pictures and graphs on a projector screen. It’s another thing entirely when sex educators show you how to do something, and invite you to ask questions… Especially when it’s not demonstrated on a piece of fruit, but on a real, live person!

The fruit laden Carmen Miranda in the Busby Berkeley directed THE GANG'S ALL HERE (1943).

Human beings are very much wired with a “monkey see, monkey do” mentality. Many of us learn best by watching. Because we are not allowed to learn about sex from watching others, our culture has turned to porn for tips and tricks in the sack.

With the ease and proliferation of free porn on the interwebs, now more than ever, porn is influencing how we behave behind closed doors (or in the back seat of our parent’s SUV). The problem with porn, in my opinion, isn’t that people are watching it; it’s that people are using porn as a How-To medium.

Watching porn isn’t the same as watching a qualified sex educator role model great communication techniques, ask permission, check in with their partner, get verbal permission from them before touching them, and then properly put a condom on while encouraging the spectators to ask questions.

The problem with porn, in my opinion, isn’t that people are watching it; it’s that people are using porn as a How-To medium.

There are several things when it comes to helping people learn about sex that are actually more easily learned if I show you the technique on a living, breathing human being and you can watch and ask us questions – an audience gets to see what “real sex” looks like. They can pick up the subtle nuances that aren’t always visible in pornography’s tightly choreographed and edited product. The more real the sex, the easier it is to grasp and transfer that feeling good and being respectful and safe has little to do with DD breasts, 12-inch cocks and squirting orgasms.

Yes, it’s a bit unorthodox by today’s standards to invite adults into a room to learn how to be a better lover by watching explicit, live demonstrations, but the simple fact is that even just talking openly about sex and intimacy in an honest and vulnerable manner is not the norm. There is so much work to be done! And there aren’t a lot of sex educators teaching explicit workshops.

Sex and relationship experts Reid Mihalko and Amy Jo Goddard in New York City about to do some demos during their popular, NC17-rated workshop, "The Ins and Outs of Hand Sex."

Great sex, for me, is 90% communication, and even when I’m teaching a technique-heavy, explicit workshop like The Ins and Outs of Hand Sex, I’m constantly trying to pass along and role model excellent communication techniques. Asking a banana for permission to put on a condom on it is actually counter productive to what I’m trying to convey in that there’s a subtle message of shame and sex-negativism: It’s bad for me to show you the real scenario happening on the Real McCoy, so here’s a piece of fruit.

With a range of workshop content spanning the gamut – PG and PG-13, to R-rated, all the way to NC17 Show-N-Tell demonstrations – adults can self-select what they’re ready for and what they’re interested in. And throughout all of it, they’re getting great role modeling for how we can all be better communicators in our lives.

Reid with a few of the super psyched students of Green Mountain College in Vermont, after his R-rated stand-up comedy/workshop on consent and boundary setting.

It is my belief that, through the process of integrating great communication tools in and out of the bedroom, we can all foster greater self-care and more self-esteem in our lives. That self-care and self-esteem gives the people in our lives permission to take care of themselves, to have and honor their own needs and boundaries, and to embrace their own self-respect and esteem. They, in turn, influence, role model and set an example for the people in their spheres of influence, upping the level of self-confidence in themselves and their communities…

And that’s how I went from creating the non-sexual, communication workshop Cuddle Party to leading NC17-rated workshops like The Ins and Outs of Handsex.

Hope to see you at a workshop sometime!

Reid and a gaggle of San Diegoans hamming it up after Reid's laughter-filled, R-rated, safer-sex workshop, "Dildos, Dental Dams, and Deep Throating!"

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Taking the woo-woo out of all those ancient (and juicy) lovemaking techniques…

Do you wish there was more than just the hump, grunt and grind of conventional sex? Ever feel like your lover (or yourself) was cursed with only one color to paint your sexual landscape with?

Don’t get us wrong, we know sex -even mediocre sex- can be lots of fun, but do you ever wish you had a wider palette of techniques and experiences to draw from?

Perhaps you’ve heard of Tantra and remember reading somewhere (last month’s Cosmo?) something about “expanded orgasms,” but think that kind of stuff is only for people like Sting, yoga instructors or porn stars.

Maybe you’ve had ecstatic experiences in the bedroom that boarder on spiritual, but they’re so far and few between that you can hardly recall (and maybe it was just the booze…).

Perhaps you’ve read a book on the Kama Sutra or talked to someone about sacred sexuality, but it was too “woo-woo” and new age-y for your sensibilities…

What if we told you mind blowing, ecstatic sex was not only possible, but learnable and didn’t have to set off your “new age” alarms?

What if we told you that conventional sex is like arts and crafts’ class with a box of crayons that only holds eight colors? What if we told you there is a box of crayons with 64 colors AND a sharpener!… And it can be yours to color your world with (and that you don’t have to stay inside the lines)!

Join sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for a fun, light-hearted romp into the world of sacred sexuality. Explore enhanced lovemaking techniques, communication skills helpful for deepening intimacy, and breathing techniques to increase your arousal and sexual stamina in this workshop designed for anyone curious about Tantra, bettering their relationships, and having fun in the bedroom.

In this 2-hour, pragmatic, informative (and humorous) workshop, you will be introduced to:

• Tantra and sacred sex basics
• What the heck is energetic sex, how it “works” and why so many of us never figure it out
• Breathing techniques that you can use to access new areas of sensation and body awareness
• Kissing as the “gateway drug” to higher states of ecstatic sex!
• Simple exercises and pressure points you can practice alone and with a partner that will kick off your energetic sexual journey
• A few advance tips and tricks that are sure to make you smile and your partner moan!

DATE: March 31st, 2010

TIME: 8-10pm

LOCATION: Los Angeles’ The Pleasure Chest

COST: FREE!

Flip jealousy and kick it’s ass while increasing your relationship skills, all in one day!

• Do you fear jealousy’s kick in the stomach?
• Often find yourself getting sucker-punched in your relationships by negative emotions or an inability to communicate what your needs are?
• Wish you could see your partner telegraph their emotional freak outs and side step them in time?

Perhaps you flinch when it’s time to have a difficult conversation, or maybe you chicken out all together? Do you wish you and your partner could navigate difficult emotions, emotionally spar and intellectually wrestle without hurting one another? Maybe you’re just looking to achieve a Zen-like state of mind when you’re taking a relationship from dating to “serious.”

If you long for more relationship techniques… If you feel like a white belt when it comes to love…

If you long for more relationship techniques, feel like a white belt when it comes to love, dating and commitment, or just want to feel confident in your love life, this five-hour workshop on Jealousy Judo and other Relationship Kung-Fu is for you!

DATE: Saturday, March 27th
TIME: 1-6pm
LOCATION: Reid’s Fruitopia event space, Oakland, CA
COST: $97 for the day workshop (extra charge for Sacred Sexuality Play Party Lab that evening). Group Discounts and VIP Passes available!

Join relationship blackbelts Reid Mihalko and Kamala Devi, creators of the informative and humorous relationship DVD Earning Your BLACKBELT In Relationships, in their Relationship Dojo for an inspiring, informative and jam-packed day devoted to honing your communication skills and giving your relationship the workout it deserves.

In this 5-hour intensive, designed to incorporate your own, unique relationships challenges as well, we will delve into:

• New ways of understanding jealousy so that you can deflect it’s crushing blows
• How to maintain your emotional balance during an argument or heated discussion and even diffuse the situation
• Ways to communicate your needs and leverage your partner’s strengths to create a win-win for both of you
• Blackbelt tips and tricks for creating powerful relationships with minimal effort!

Whether you are single, newly dating, married, divorced or on Match.com for years… Whether you’re monogamous or a swinger, poly-curious or have been practicing open relationships for years… Gay, straight, queer, undecided, or something that has yet to be named… This day-long workshop along with it’s “play party lab,” where you can test out your newly practiced communication techniques and relationship Kung-Fu is the perfect place for gain the confidence you need in a safe, controlled, interactive and playful environment.

You’ll be amazed by how deep you can go and how high you will soar. Please consider experiencing the rewards and transformation Kamala Devi and Reid Mihalko can generate and facilitate!

DATE: Saturday, March 27th
TIME: 1-6pm
LOCATION: Reid’s Fruitopia event space, Oakland, CA
COST: $97 for the day workshop (extra charge for Sacred Sexuality Play Party Lab that evening). Group Discounts and VIP Passes available!

ABOUT KAMALA: Kamala Devi ofwww.BlissCoach.com is a down to earth tantra goddess who has been studying and practicing yoga, tantra, sacred sexuality, and sexual healing during her extensive travels for the past eleven years.

A prolific writer, Kamala is the author of Don’t Drink the Punch: An Adventure in Tantra, Sacred Sexual Healing with Baba Dez Nichols and Teaching Tantra the EROTIC WAY as well as numerous stage plays. She has most recently release her collaborative DVD with Reid Mihalko, Earning Your BLACKBELT in Relationship.

Kamala has recently appeared nationally on Tyra Banks’s Tyra, theMorning Show, Inside Edition, MTV and several programs overseas.

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

The dating and relationship scene across the country is tangled up in outdated models, mixed messages and “solutions” that aren’t working. What’s worse is, for men AND women, New York City is the simultaneously the best and the worst place on Earth to date! Heck, even the successful relationships around us are failing… Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins!?!

What is it we’re all missing?…

Join world renowned sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko as he sits down with spiritual counselor and teacher Paula Tursi for 90-minutes of discussion & conversation on how to reframe your experience and enlighten your quest for your perfect someone. Learn how  your search for a mate is really a journey  for your own self discovery.

Over the course of this insightful, comedic (and occasionally irreverent) evening, we will discuss:

• What is that ineffable “thing” is that makes relationships work and why so many of us miss seeing it!
• What if your mate wasn’t suppose to be your perfect lover, best friend, etc., but -instead- is your mirror for growth?
• How dating is really a beautiful lesson in how to live consciously, how to heal your own inner demons, and transform your life (Even during the times it feels like hell).
• Ways to look beyond the “they’re dreamy” Illusion or “Fantasy Loop” you keep getting stuck in and how to see what your no-bullshit truth is!

Are you frustrated by how much time you’ve spent on dating websites and botched, online dates, or bad relationships?

Sit with them as Reid asks and answers some of the hard questions about how we can find spirituality on our quest for Other. Hear Paula’s up front answers in sharing her own experience as she tells what worked and what didn’t and how it brought her closer to her inner light and to a real place of love and compassion instead of inadequacy and bitterness. Then join them for Q&A that just might change your relationship life!

After the workshop, join us for a social, wine meetup where you can mix and mingle  with other like-minded, single men and women whom would also like to get real about relationship.  Expand your mind while expanding your social network!

Whether you’re a man or a woman, married umpteen times, separated, recently divorced or never- been-kissed… Whether you’re just thinking about entering the online dating pool or you’ve been a member of Match.com for so long you should have been given stock options…

This workshop is for anyone who is confused and frustrated and not getting the results they want when it comes to the world of relationships in New York City and beyond!

Call Reflections Yoga to reserve your tickets before this evening sells out!
(212) 974.2288

DATE: Saturday, Feb 13th
WHEN: Talk – 7-8:30pm, Mixer – 9pm-Midnite
WHERE: Reflections Yoga in Times Square, 250 West 49 Street, 2nd Floor (Between 8th Ave. and Broadway), New York, NY 10019

COST:

Day-of ticket prices at the door…

• $20 for Talk Only
• $40 to attend both the Talk and Wine Mixer

Save on GROUP DISCOUNTS with advanced tickets…

• $35 each for You and a Friend for the Entire Evening
• $30 each for the Entire Evening when you buy 3 or more tickets!

Other Reid Valentine’s related workshops…
Feb 12th – Romance for the Jaded New Yorker and the Newly In Love!
Feb 13th - Single’s Only Cuddle Party
Feb 13th – Dating: The Reality and the Illusion… (And the Wine Tasting Meet Up, too!)
Feb 14th – Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown Slams Providence, RI!
Feb 17th – The Ins and Outs of Hand-Sex with Amy Jo Goddard

ABOUT PAULA: Paula Tursi is the Founder and Director of Reflections Yoga and the Reflections Yoga Teacher Training Program. She has been working with alternative healing practices for over twenty years. She specializes in the combination of yoga, breath therapy and meditation. She uses these techniques in her class and private coaching sessions, giving her students tools to cope with the challenges of daily life. Paula holds yoga retreats and teacher trainings world wide, where she teaching movement awareness techniques mixed with the yoga to create a clear connection of the mind and body.

Paula’s work focuses on the connection of mind and body, understanding that we move not only from our muscles and joints, but from the understanding of ourselves and how we relate to the world. Movement or asana can start from the inner or outer body, however, movement initiated from the inner body can be an expression of locked memories in the mind that have been patterned over time.

Paula holds a Masters degree in Psychology from Columbia University and a Masters degree in Education from Hunter College. She did her clinical post-graduate training at the Milton H. Erickson Society for Psychotherapy and Hypnosis. She teaches classes, holds corporate workshops and offers individual instruction in breath awareness, partner yoga and spiritual coaching.

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Cuddle Party creator, Reid Mihalko, to lead weekend-long intensive for anyone wanting to facilitate workshops and/or Cuddle Parties!

Chicago, IL • June 25-27th, 2010

Open-to-the-Public Cuddle Party Friday night!

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,
come spend the weekend with Reid!

Foundations of Facilitation Training, created by world renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski, is a weekend-long intensive program designed to provide you with the skills you need to create powerful, transformative workshops. Created by the inventors of Cuddle Party, this training will provide you with the tools you need to enhance your confidence, create new depth to your presentations, and improve your ability to create relatedness with just about anyone. Whether you are new to running events for groups, or have been facilitating for years, this interactive, hands-on training has much to offer.

“I took my first facilitator training 30 years ago, and it’s been a long, long time since I learned so much in one weekend.” — Ankha, Minnesota

Over the course of the weekend, you will learn how to:

• create safe, non-sexual space to explore intimacy on both a personal and professional level
• lead workshops that leave your participants feeling touched, open, valued and nurtured
• generate an environment where women and men communicate more authentically
• listen profoundly
• create a powerful relatedness with strangers quickly and easily
• be more open to others and able to give and receive comfortably
• create strong boundaries for yourself without shutting others down

You will also learn:

• tools for building a strong, intimate community
• advanced tools for handling rejection
• communication techniques that open people up to discuss intimacy, desires, fears and needs

Foundations of Facilitation has trained over 200 men and women. They have consistently rated FoF as one of the best training workshops available… and these workshop junkies, facilitator black belts and self-help gurus know workshops!

“Most training weekends of this kind cost nearly a $1000. The Foundations of Facilitation training weekend is only $495 and comes with my money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So what have you got to loose? Come to Atlanta, Georgia, and spend it with me!”

~Reid

Whether you simply want to enhance your own leadership skills or become a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator, this is one weekend you won’t want to miss. Join us for one of our upcoming 2010 FoF training weekends:

Jan 22-24, 2010 in Atlanta (area), GA - lead by Len Daley
Feb 26-28, 2010 in Oakland, CA – lead by Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski
June 25-27, 2010 in Chicago, IL – lead by Reid Mihalko

Can’t get to an FoF this year? Virtual Training Options are available for qualified candidates overseas. Go to FoundationsofFacilitation.org for more info on who to contact!

Change people’s lives. REGISTER NOW for Foundations of Facilitation Training. For more information, visit the training schedule or our Training FAQ.

“I encourage anyone with a hankering to become a CP facilitator to take the leap and DO IT!  It has been one of my greatest joys for the past 3 years…after all, how many people can say that they come to work in their p’j’s, get paid to touch and be touched and it’s legal?  <3″

— Edie Weinstein, Philledelphia, PA

“Of all the workshops I’ve attended, the [Foundations of Facilitation] Training has given me the most practical and useful tools to create and maintain direct, open and honest communication with EVERYONE in my life DAILY.”

— Tracy, Alabama

No date for Valentine’s Day? No problemo!

Come meet Cuddle Party creator Reid Mihalko and as well as a whole bunch of amazing, single New Yorkers in one of our biggest Cuddle Party events of the year.

More than 10,000 women and men in cities all across America have show up and were delighted with their experience…

What will you learn?
Who will you meet!
How big will your smile be?

• Take the sting out of Cupid’s arrow
• Expand your social network
• Have some fun
• Learn and practice how to say No and not feel guilty
• Practice changing you mind – a valuable future skill for when you’re stuck in the middle of your next bad date!

Cuddling isn’t mandatory EVER at a Cuddle Party,
but being single for this event IS…

EARLY-BIRD SAVINGS and GROUP DISCOUNTS avail while they last, so order your tickets for by FEB 1st and SAVE!!

“Your first Cuddle Party was like finding some long-lost love medicine among the culturally accepted remedies that generally promote unhealthy attitudes…”
~Elaine, New York City

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Join Reid Mihalko for this playful communication workshop guranteed to take the sting out of Cupid’s arrow! Who knows, you might even meet someone! Seriously, tell everyone and come escape from the cold for a snuggl-o-licious time with a bunch of other cuddly singles!

DATE: Saturday, February 13th, 2010
TIME: 2:30-6pm EST
LOCATION: Reflections Yoga in Times Square
250 West 49th Street, 2nd floor, Times Square 10019

For more info about Cuddle Party, please go to www.cuddleparty.com

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko, co-creator of Cuddle Party, helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie. Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.