An Expansive and Experiential Weekend Exploring Kundalini, the “Tantric Twitchies” and Vibrational Luvin’ with Live Demonstrations!

Lots of people are curious about Tantra and ecstatic sex, but don’t find the New Age approach appealing. If you’ve got a low tolerance for words like “chakras’ and “yoni,” you can still discover how to experience and play with sexual energy!

Sex and relationship expert (with a sense of humor) Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com will not only explain how sexual energy works but show you!

2-Days devoted to developing your awareness and mastery of sexual energy…

Come to 1 or both days!

Cultivate your awareness of sexual energy and give yourself the tools for engaging and expanding your energetic experiences (solo or with a partner)… And witness live demonstrations of what “Energetic Sex” can look like! Plus, tips for unlocking and activating pressure points on your partner’s body to enhance sexual energy, and lots, lots more… (And of course, if you do like the “woo,” Reid has plenty to offer you, too, in this unique 1-day or 2-day experience!)

Day-1 will be Rated-R. Day-2 will be more explicit. Read below…

This 2-day workshop Intensive is designed for curious beginners, intermediate seekers and advanced practitioners.

Perhaps you’ve heard of Tantra and remember reading somewhere (last month’s Cosmo?) something about “expanded orgasms,” but think that kind of stuff is only for people like Sting, yoga instructors or Jedi.

Maybe you or a lover has had ecstatic experiences in the bedroom involving post-orgasmic spasms that seem to have a mind of their own, but these spasms come and go infrequently enough that you can’t tell if they’re real or not.

Maybe you or your lover get these spasms all the time and you’ve since named them “the twitchys,” and when you told your friend the Kundalini yoga instructor about ‘em, they lit up and told you those spasms have a Sandskrit name called Kriyas (which you promptly forgot ’cause you don’t speak Sandskrit).

Whatever your level of experience with sex that seems to be “more than just sex,” join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for 2-days of humorous and informative instruction, sex education, and live demonstrations on this esoteric (and yet more common than you think) realm of sex: Energetic Sex.

Day-1 will be Rated-R with a Show-N-Tell, Watch and Ask Questions format. All Day-1 demonstrations will be fully clothed. Day-2 is Rated NC-17, with more explicit demonstrations. Participants on Day-2 will be practicing fully-clothed exercises. No one under 18 admitted to either day, and no participant nudity.

Register ASAP.

Day-2 Limited to ONLY 20 Adults, with Day-1 attendance a pre-requisite.

Date: Saturday and Sunday, 14th adn 15th, 2010
Time: 1-5pm both days
Location: The Sharma Center
406 Dexter Street
Seattle WA 98109
Cost: Day-1 only: $97
Both Days: $197
Day-2: Attendance at Day-1 is a prerequisite to participate in Day-2.

Day-1: You’ll watch while Reid demonstrates.

You will be introduced to:

• Reid’s particular views on how sexual energy “behaves” and how it “works,” as well as ways you can begin accessing more energetic awareness in the bedroom
• What Kriyas (“the twitchys”) can look like and what to do when you or a lover experiences them
• Three possible approaches for engaging sexual energy and expanding it when exploring energetic sex with a partner or solo with yourself
• What playing a singing saw has to do with energetic sex and expanding your lovemaking
• Simple breathing and “presence” techniques to build up energetic awareness
• How to use “pressure play” and where so you can help unlock and activate points on your lover’s body to augment energetic experiences during love making
• A few advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!

Day-2: Sunday limited to 20 participants only!

The group will watch explicit demonstrations from Reid and his models to review and enhance techniques covered on Day-1. Reid will introduce fully-clothed, voluntary exercises for class participants, along with personal and group coaching and guidance, to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the content.

Some of Day-2’s content:

• How nudity changes sexual energy
• Techniques to enhance energetic lovemaking on female and male gendered bodies that are naked as opposed to clothed
• Techniques to keep erotic energy “in check” when and if you happen to be easily excitable and your partner becomes VERY excited…
• Fully-clothed exercises you and a partner can use to practice energetic sex (and time during Day-2 to try them out, if you’re a yes!)
• A variety of sexual positions that can help unlock and activate and energize you and your lover’s bodies during love making
• Live demonstrations of advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!
• How to prevent energetic “burn out” or -as Reid likes to say- “How not to fry you and your partners’ brains!”

Come see for yourself just how energetic sex can be! And begin embodying it, too!

Whether you’d like to believe that energetic sex is possible but have never felt it, have a lover that experiences “the twitchys,” or it’s YOU who’s the one flopping around in bed wanting to learn how to harness these sexual energies, Reid’s Hands-On Energetic Sex Intensive is for you.

Please remember that this workshop spans Reid’s R-Rated and Rated NC-17 workshop offerings, which means no one under 18 will be admitted. Why the age cutoff? Because Day-2 of this workshop includes explicit (and, at times, quite humorous) sexual content and adult sex education. Day-1 is just as funny and frank, but it will be more R-rated. If you are not okay with frank demonstrations, sexual language, and nudity, then please refrain from attending Day-2 of this workshop and consider attending only Day-1 or one of Reid’s other Rated-R or Rated-PG13 workshops. Thanks!

This is not a partner workshop. You may attend solo, but we encourage you to bring your friends, so spread the word!

Workshop participants will not have to participate. Day-1 of this workshop is designed for participants to watch, take notes, ask questions, and to learn. Day-2 is designed with voluntary, fully-clothed exercises for participants to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the information, techniques and teachings. No participants will be getting naked during these two days.

Not sure what Energetic Sex is? Download Reid’s FREE PODCAST BELOW…

4-hours of in depth, demystifying teachings revealing the secrets and nuances of Kundalini-opening sex!

• Curious about how yoga, breathwork, Tantra, your anatomy and your orgasm all fit together?
• Looking to take your lovemaking to higher levels of arousal and ecstasy?
• Curious if it’s possible to orgasm just by breathing???
• Want to knock your lovers’ socks not just off, but clear across the room?

Join sexperts Reid Mihalko and Sheri Winston for an afternoon of experiential, one-on-one and group learning designed to make Energetic Sex simple and attainable, and fun!

Think it’s impossible to orgasm just by breathing? Think again! Let Reid and Sheri show you what’s possible in the bedroom and beyond…

In this 4-hour, R-rated class with fully-clothed exercises and fully-clothed demonstrations, you will learn:

• The basics anatomy of human arousal, what Energetic Sex is, and how it works.
• How to use breathing to heighten your pleasure and orgasmic response, and even trigger orgasms.
• Exercises and practices you can take home and use today!
• Simple, pragmatic, non-”woo-woo” approaches to incorporating Energetic Sex and Breath-gasms into your bedroom activities tonight.
• Ways Energetic Sex and Breath-gasms can be applied to sexual dysfunctions and challenges in the bedroom.

Reid demonstrates an energetic orgasm and what he calls "Tantric Twitchies" (Kriyas) for the audience with the generous help of Amber Seitz at a workshop in Oakland

Date: Saturday, July 31st
Time: Noon-4pm
Location: Fruitopia event space
1080 23rd Ave, Ste. 110, Oakland 94606
Cost: $99 per person, $158 for two (Save 20%!)

1-Person for the Day

Buy 2 tickets and SAVE 20%!

This workshop is Rated-R. No nudity. No explicit sexual contact. Adult language, frank content. Reid’s no questions asked, money-back guarantee if you’re not fully satisfied.

HAVEN’T HAD YOUR FILL YET?

DON’T MOVE!!!

Join Reid and Sheri, Saturday evening, in the same location for:

IRON SLUT SEX EDUCATOR SHOWDOWN!…

ABOUT SHERI: Sheri Winston CNM, RN, BSN, LMT, is a medical professional, sexuality educator and author who is on a mission to transform our culture’s attitudes about sex.

Wholistic Sexuality Teacher and Counselor, Founder & Executive Director of the Center for the Intimate Arts, Sheri’s journey began when she became a licensed massage therapist in 1980. She soon discovered that she felt called to become a midwife and began assisting and apprenticing at home births. That was rapidly followed by becoming a childbirth educator and doula (someone who provides professional labor support). In order to become a legal midwife, she attended nursing school and graduated valedictorian, summa cum laude, receiving her BSN (Bachelor’s degree in Science of Nursing) and becoming a RN (registered nurse). Finally, she attended midwifery school for her graduate education, becoming a certified nurse-midwife and gynecology nurse-practitioner.

Sheri has always been a teacher. During her first two decades of clinical practice, Sheri Winston also taught Childbirth Education & WomanCraft, classes on pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and women’s health issues.* A decade ago, in response to a growing awareness of the need for accurate, comprehensive, accessible and empowering information about sex, she expanded into sexuality education and began development of what has become her major work, the Wholistic Sexuality Curriculum.

Sheri is now retired from clinical practice to focus full time on teaching Workshops and Counseling through the Center for the Intimate Arts. She also lectures and makes appearances around the country to talk about sex and Wholistic Sexuality. Sheri believes her twenty years in women’s health care have given her an excellent foundation for sexuality education and counseling, and formed her unique approach.  She has also studied a wide variety of holistic healing modalities including integral health, herbalism, energy healing, psychological and emotional healing, women’s health, and many hands-on healing techniques.

She feels that life is for learning and believes that her current calling is to help transform our culture into one that celebrates sex as our vital life force, as a source of ecstasy, and as the glue and lubricant of delicious intimate relationships. She invites you to make your own journey to empowering yourself with information about your body, your potential and about Wholistic Sexuality!

Reid Mihalko: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

10 Tantra Teachers Over 4 Days on 11-Acres In the Sunshine and Under the Stars…

WHO? Teachers include Reid Mihalko, David Cates, Francoise, Jaiya ma, Katie Weatherup, Kirin Khalsa, Liquid Bells, Robert Silber, Shawn Roop and Kamala Devi. The retreat is limieted to 64 sexy spiritis from around the country.

WHAT? In 8-8-08 Kamala Devi offered an initiation. In 9-9-09 there was an activation. And THIS year we delve into the realm of sexual shamanism.

WHEN? Friday, Oct. 8th thru Monday, Oct. 11th (Columbus Day). Friday night starts with a sensual puja @ 7p and continues with classses, parties, and performances art until 4pm, Monday.

WHERE? A garden paradise in the hills of Escondido. Tuition includes boarding at this 11 acre natural healing estate. There are 2 spas, a pool, trails, fountains, orchards and an outdoor ampitheater where Tantra Theater will perform under the stars.

HOW MUCH? Tuition includes rustic accommodations, all 10 classes, admission to all evening parties, two optional tele-classes and is ONLY $397.

The first 10 participants to register get $100-off!

Call 858-272-2254 Today to Register or Visit BlissCoach.com!

The Juicy Details: This is a ground-breaking festival will happen over Columbus day weekend: Fri. Oct. 8-Mon.11th. on a beautiful 11 acre retreat property in Escondido, just outside of San Diego. This Year’s theme is “SACRED SEXUAL SHAMANISM.” Only 64 friends, lovers and visitors will be creating intentional community for 4 days in a garden paradise in the hills of Escondido, Ca. Together we will study, practice, play, eat, sleep and awaken. If you’ve been wanting to expand your experience of depth and connection from sex, spirituality, and community this is the place to be!

What actually Happens? We’ll kick off on Friday night with a sensual puja led by master Francoise, and then will continue all day on Saturday, Sunday and Monday afternoon with this powerful line up of teachers: Dave Cates, Jaiya Ma, Kirin Khalsa, Liquid Bowls, Reid Mihalko, Robert Silber, and Shawn Roop. Kamala Devi will be your coach and Mistress of Ceremonies. Each teacher will teach for approximately 2-hours, and will be living in resident community for the duration of the retreat.

The weekend takes place in an 11 acre natural healing estate (clothing optional) with 2 spas, a pool, trails, fountains, orchards and an outdoor amphitheater where Tantra Theater will perform under the stars. In the evenings, we’ll have a transformative Tantra Theater Performances followed by sacred sensual play parties and shamanic journeys!

Tuition, room & board? This four day residential event is only $397, which includes. all of the classes, parties, and basic rustic accomodations which are dormatory sleeping or camping (first come first serve basis.)
If you have special needs for space or privacy, you can pay more for private accommodations please contact tantrikakalidas (at) gmail (dot) com If you want to check out the grounds go to:

http://www.hiddenvalleyspa.com/Facility.html

Food will be community potluck, kitchen experience. Once you register, you will be assigned to a kitchen crew and will be asked to bring a specific dish for a specific meal.

We understand that not everyone make it to all three days of the festival, but there are no discounted day passes. The tuition is set at such a reasonable price that we trust you will still get immense value and attend as much as possible. Act fast, the registrations are rolling in.

This retreat is designed for women, men, singles, couples, teachers and students who already have a daily tantra practice. Let us know if you are coming from out-of-town and would like a list of local homes or hotels.

Reid’s Tantra for Beginners and the first Hands-On Energetic Sex 2-Day Intensive went so well, that he’s running it again, July 1oth and 11th in Santa Monica…

Day-1 will be Rated-R. Day-2 will be more explicit. Read below…

This 2-day workshop Intensive is designed for curious beginners, intermediate seekers and advanced practitioners.

Perhaps you’ve heard of Tantra and remember reading somewhere (last month’s Cosmo?) something about “expanded orgasms,” but think that kind of stuff is only for people like Sting, yoga instructors or Jedi.

Maybe you or a lover has had ecstatic experiences in the bedroom involving post-orgasmic spasms that seem to have a mind of their own, but these spasms come and go infrequently enough that you can’t tell if they’re real or not.

Maybe you or your lover get these spasms all the time and you’ve since named them “the twitchys,” and when you told your friend the Kundalini yoga instructor about ‘em, they lit up and told you those spasms have a Sandskrit name called Kriyas (which you promptly forgot ’cause you don’t speak Sandskrit).

Whatever your level of experience with sex that seems to be “more than just sex,” join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for 2-days of humorous and informative instruction, sex education, and live demonstrations on this esoteric (and yet more common than you think) realm of sex: Energetic Sex.

Day-1 will be Rated-R with a Show-N-Tell, Watch and Ask Questions format. All Day-1  demonstrations will be fully clothed. Day-2 is Rated NC-17, with more explicit demonstrations. Participants on Day-2 will be practicing fully-clothed exercises. No one under 18 admitted to either day, and no participant nudity.

Day-2 Limited to ONLY 20 Adults, with Day-1 attendance a pre-requisite.

Register ASAP.

Date: Saturday and Sunday, July 10th and 11th, 2010
Time: Saturday time: 1-5, Sunday time: 1-5pm
Location: Shiatsu Massage School of Santa Monica
2309 Main Street
Santa Monica CA 90405
Cost: Day-1 only: $97
Both Days: $197
Day-2: Attendance at Day-1 is a prerequisite to participate in Day-2.

Day-1: You’ll watch while Reid demonstrates.

You will be introduced to:

• Reid’s particular views on how sexual energy “behaves” and how it “works,” as well as ways you can begin accessing more energetic awareness in the bedroom
• What Kriyas (“the twitchys”) can look like and what to do when you or a lover experiences them
• Three possible approaches for engaging sexual energy and expanding it when exploring energetic sex with a partner or solo with yourself
• What playing a singing saw has to do with energetic sex and expanding your lovemaking
• Simple breathing and “presence” techniques to build up energetic awareness
• How to use “pressure play” and where so you can help unlock and activate points on your lover’s body to augment energetic experiences during love making
• A few advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!

Day-2: Sunday limited to 20 participants only!

The group will watch explicit demonstrations from Reid and his models to review and enhance techniques covered on Day-1. Reid will introduce fully-clothed, voluntary exercises for class participants, along with personal and group coaching and guidance, to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the content.

Some of Day-2’s content:

• How nudity changes sexual energy
• Techniques to enhance energetic lovemaking on female and male gendered bodies that are naked as opposed to clothed
• Techniques to keep erotic energy “in check” when and if you happen to be easily excitable and your partner becomes VERY excited…
• Fully-clothed exercises you and a partner can use to practice energetic sex (and time during Day-2 to try them out, if you’re a yes!)
• A variety of sexual positions that can help unlock and activate and energize you and your lover’s bodies during love making
• Live demonstrations of advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!
• How to prevent energetic “burn out” or -as Reid likes to say- “How not to fry you and your partners’ brains!”

Come see for yourself just how energetic sex can be! And begin embodying it, too!

Whether you’d like to believe that energetic sex is possible but have never felt it, have a lover that experiences “the twitchys,” or it’s YOU who’s the one flopping around in bed wanting to learn how to harness these sexual energies, Reid’s Hands-On Energetic Sex Intensive is for you.

Please remember that this workshop spans Reid’s R-Rated and Rated NC-17 workshop offerings, which means no one under 18 will be admitted. Why the age cutoff? Because Day-2 of this workshop includes explicit (and, at times, quite humorous) sexual content and adult sex education. Day-1 is just as funny and frank, but it will be more R-rated. If you are not okay with frank demonstrations, sexual language, and nudity, then please refrain from attending Day-2 of this workshop and consider attending only Day-1 or one of Reid’s other Rated-R or Rated-PG13 workshops. Thanks!

This is not a partner workshop. You may attend solo, but we encourage you to bring your friends, so spread the word!

Workshop participants will not have to participate. Day-1 of this workshop is designed for participants to watch, take notes, ask questions, and to learn. Day-2 is designed with voluntary, fully-clothed exercises for participants to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the information, techniques and teachings. No participants will be getting naked during these two days.

Not sure what Energetic Sex is? Download Reid’s FREE PODCAST BELOW…

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

Foundations of Facilitation Training, created by world renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski, is a weekend-long intensive program designed to provide you with the skills you need to create powerful, transformative workshops. Created by the inventors of Cuddle Party, this training will provide you with the tools you need to enhance your confidence, create new depth to your presentations, and improve your ability to create relatedness with just about anyone. Whether you are new to running events for groups, or have been facilitating for years, this interactive, hands-on training has much to offer.

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,

come spend the weekend with Reid!

“I took my first facilitator training 30 years ago, and it’s been a long, long time since I learned so much in one weekend.” — Ankha, Minnesota

Read this Extraordinary Testimonial from Madeleon HERE!

Over the course of the weekend, you will learn how to:

• create safe, non-sexual space to explore intimacy on both a personal and professional level
• lead workshops that leave your participants feeling touched, open, valued and nurtured
• generate an environment where women and men communicate more authentically
• listen profoundly
• create a powerful relatedness with strangers quickly and easily
• be more open to others and able to give and receive comfortably
• create strong boundaries for yourself without shutting others down

You will also learn:

• tools for building a strong, intimate community
• advanced tools for handling rejection
• communication techniques that open people up to discuss intimacy, desires, fears and needs

Foundations of Facilitation has trained over 200 men and women. They have consistently rated FoF as one of the best training workshops available… and these workshop junkies, facilitator black belts and self-help gurus know workshops!

“Most training weekends of this kind cost nearly a $1000. The Foundations of Facilitation training weekend is only $495 and comes with my money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So what have you got to loose? Come to Chicago and spend it with me!”

~Reid

2010's Oakland FOF Intensive Group after their Friday night Cuddle Party kick-off!

Whether you simply want to enhance your own leadership skills or become a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator, this is one weekend you won’t want to miss. Join us for one of our upcoming 2010 FoF training weekends:

Jun 18-20, 2010 in Santa Cruz, CA

Jun 25-27, 2010 in Chicago, IL with Reid Mihalko!

Sep 24-26, 2010 in Toronto, ON, Canada

Oct 01-03, 2010 in DC/Mid-Atlantic Area

Jan 21-23, 2011 in Atlanta (area), GA

Feb 25-27, 2011 in Oakland

Cheap Airfares to The Windy City AND Reid: What RU waiting for!?! by Airfarewatchdog.com

Change people’s lives. REGISTER NOW for Foundations of Facilitation Training. For more information, visit the training schedule or our Training FAQ.

“I encourage anyone with a hankering to become a CP facilitator to take the leap and DO IT!  It has been one of my greatest joys for the past 3 years…after all, how many people can say that they come to work in their p’j’s, get paid to touch and be touched and it’s legal?  <3″

— Edie Weinstein, Philledelphia, PA

“Of all the workshops I’ve attended, the [Foundations of Facilitation] Training has given me the most practical and useful tools to create and maintain direct, open and honest communication with EVERYONE in my life DAILY.”

— Tracy, Alabama

Cuddle Party creator, Reid Mihalko, leading a week’s worth of amazing education in the Windy City!

Chicago, IL • June 22-27th, 2010

• July 22nd: Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating
• July 23rd: Backdoor Luvin’: Anal Play for Beginners
• July 25th: Chicago Cuddle Party with Reid!
• July 25-27th: Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensive (See below)

Foundations of Facilitation Weekend with Reid

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,
come spend the weekend with Reid!

Click HERE for more info!

What does it take to show up as someone who creates a space for people to discover themselves?

From a recent attendee of my Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensive that happened in Oakland, CA. The next one I lead will be in Chicago, June 25-27th… Thanks, Madelon!

It’s been almost two weeks since I returned from taking The Foundations Of Facilitation 3 day training in San Francisco with Reid Mihalko and Marcia Bazcynski, the creators of Cuddleparty – among many other things – and I’m beginning to get enough perspective to filter my experience into words.

Being taught about facilitation by being expertly facilitated in a workshop on facilitation is a bit of a rabbit hole to go down. I was given space to discover my own ability to create space and what my obstacles are:  Creating space in me creates space around me for others to have their own space. Whew, that’s a brain twister!

The truth is this paradox was everywhere and the lines between who is teaching, who is learning and what is being taught all blur together. Facilitating is all about giving and receiving and, as one particular exercise in the workshop made clear to me, they are truly one and the same.

Reid and Marcia created an extraordinarily safe space. They set a tone of playful and intelligent allowing, brimming with respect and downright kindness, that facilitated me going deeply into my own insights. Everyone in this workshop was my teacher and I’ve walked away with more trust and assurance in myself and the ability to reflect that to anyone who comes to one of my events. When I know my participants already have everything they need and we can really play and have fun together. This is the kind of facilitator I like being!

So there, I’ve tried to give it words and now I can just step back and say. “This workshop is amazing!” I could take it over and over and keep getting just as much out of it. For the facilitator to be facilitated is the biggest gift ever. It shows me how much I am giving when I receive it. It shows me my responsibility as a participant for how I show up. It shows me how powerful the non-doing of facilitating is – how what is NOT said can be much more powerful that what IS said.

Speaking of taking it over and over again… I’ll be doing just that June 25th – 27th when Reid Mihalko comes here to give this workshop in June. And I’m not the only one, another participant is already signing up to come here from San Franciso. I am sending this to you because I want to have my friends come play in this space too.

I know you as someone who is very interested in creating space for others to discover their own truths and share your authentic self in the process. If you’re interested in deepening your ability to do this, in strengthening your facilitation “kung fu”, as Reid calls it, come sit with a Ninja who generously shares his secrets. And come play with me!

Go to www.foundationsoffacilitation.org for more info and to register. If you’d like info about payment options – or about my experience – call or email me.  madloni@comcast.net or 773-320-7571

With Love,
~Madelon

P.S. I invite you to pass this on to anyone you think may benefit from it as well.

An Expansive and Experiential Weekend Exploring Kundalini, the “Tantric Twitchies” and Vibrational Luvin’ with Live Demonstrations!

Reid’s Tantra for Beginners and the LA debut of his Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown workshops went so well, that he’s heading back to Los Angeles and devoting two whole days to Energetic Sex, May 15th and 16th…

Day-1 will be Rated-R. Day-2 will be more explicit. Read below…

This 2-day workshop Intensive is designed for curious beginners, intermediate seekers and advanced practitioners.

Perhaps you’ve heard of Tantra and remember reading somewhere (last month’s Cosmo?) something about “expanded orgasms,” but think that kind of stuff is only for people like Sting, yoga instructors or Jedi.

Maybe you or a lover has had ecstatic experiences in the bedroom involving post-orgasmic spasms that seem to have a mind of their own, but these spasms come and go infrequently enough that you can’t tell if they’re real or not.

Maybe you or your lover get these spasms all the time and you’ve since named them “the twitchys,” and when you told your friend the Kundalini yoga instructor about ‘em, they lit up and told you those spasms have a Sandskrit name called Kriyas (which you promptly forgot ’cause you don’t speak Sandskrit).

Whatever your level of experience with sex that seems to be “more than just sex,” join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for 2-days of humorous and informative instruction, sex education, and live demonstrations on this esoteric (and yet more common than you think) realm of sex: Energetic Sex.

Reid demonstrates an energetic orgasm and what he calls "Tantric Twitchies" (Kriyas) for the audience with the generous help of Amber Seitz at a workshop in Oakland

Day-1 will be Rated-R with a Show-N-Tell, Watch and Ask Questions format. All Day-1  demonstrations will be fully clothed. Day-2 is Rated NC-17, with more explicit demonstrations. Participants on Day-2 will be practicing fully-clothed exercises. No one under 18 admitted to either day, and no participant nudity.

Day-2 Limited to ONLY 20 Adults, with Day-1 attendance a pre-requisite.

Register ASAP.

Date: Saturday and Sunday, May 15th and 16th, 2010
Time: 1-5pm, both days
Location: Shiatsu Massage School of Santa Monica
2309 Main Street
Santa Monica CA 90405
Cost: Day-1 only: $97
Both Days: $197
Day-2: Attendance at Day-1 is a prerequisite to participate in Day-2.

Day-1: You’ll watch while Reid demonstrates.

You will be introduced to:

• Reid’s particular views on how sexual energy “behaves” and how it “works,” as well as ways you can begin accessing more energetic awareness in the bedroom
• What Kriyas (“the twitchys”) can look like and what to do when you or a lover experiences them
• Three possible approaches for engaging sexual energy and expanding it when exploring energetic sex with a partner or solo with yourself
• What playing a singing saw has to do with energetic sex and expanding your lovemaking
• Simple breathing and “presence” techniques to build up energetic awareness
• How to use “pressure play” and where so you can help unlock and activate points on your lover’s body to augment energetic experiences during love making
• A few advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!

Day-2: Sunday limited to 20 participants only!

The group will watch explicit demonstrations from Reid and his models to review and enhance techniques covered on Day-1. Reid will introduce fully-clothed, voluntary exercises for class participants, along with personal and group coaching and guidance, to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the content.

Some of Day-2’s content:

• How nudity changes sexual energy
• Techniques to enhance energetic lovemaking on female and male gendered bodies that are naked as opposed to clothed
• Techniques to keep erotic energy “in check” when and if you happen to be easily excitable and your partner becomes VERY excited…
• Fully-clothed exercises you and a partner can use to practice energetic sex (and time during Day-2 to try them out, if you’re a yes!)
• A variety of sexual positions that can help unlock and activate and energize you and your lover’s bodies during love making
• Live demonstrations of advance tips and tricks that will make you smile and your partner moan regardless of whether “the twitchys” happen or not!
• How to prevent energetic “burn out” or -as Reid likes to say- “How not to fry you and your partners’ brains!”

Come see for yourself just how energetic sex can be! And begin embodying it, too!

Whether you’d like to believe that energetic sex is possible but have never felt it, have a lover that experiences “the twitchys,” or it’s YOU who’s the one flopping around in bed wanting to learn how to harness these sexual energies, Reid’s Hands-On Energetic Sex Intensive is for you.

Please remember that this workshop spans Reid’s R-Rated and Rated NC-17 workshop offerings, which means no one under 18 will be admitted. Why the age cutoff? Because Day-2 of this workshop includes explicit (and, at times, quite humorous) sexual content and adult sex education. Day-1 is just as funny and frank, but it will be more R-rated. If you are not okay with frank demonstrations, sexual language, and nudity, then please refrain from attending Day-2 of this workshop and consider attending only Day-1 or one of Reid’s other Rated-R or Rated-PG13 workshops. Thanks!

This is not a partner workshop. You may attend solo, but we encourage you to bring your friends, so spread the word!

Workshop participants will not have to participate. Day-1 of this workshop is designed for participants to watch, take notes, ask questions, and to learn. Day-2 is designed with voluntary, fully-clothed exercises for participants to begin exploring, embodying and anchoring the information, techniques and teachings. No participants will be getting naked during these two days.

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A.K.A., How I Went From Cuddle Parties to NC17…

Cuddle Parties don’t overtly deal with sex. Nor should they. But what should?

In today’s touch starved culture, Cuddle Party was (and still is) doing a great job of giving people a sunggle-O-licious laboratory to practice the foundational communication skills that make the world safe for touch and affection. And the world could stand to be more cuddle-friendly.

Skills like asking for what you want, the ability to change one’s mind (and communicate it), and being able to say No without feeling guilty are just as important when you’re naked between the sheets as when you and your friends are pajama-clad, hug-deep in a puppy pile. And while Cuddle Party is an amazing, interactive experience where people become better communicators of their needs and boundaries and learn how to create more affection and nurturing touch in their lives, I had nowhere of my own to send people who wanted to increase their sexual confidence in a more direct manner.

Let’s face it, the communication needs are similar, but spooning isn’t the same as forking. I’d created Cuddle Party. What other workshops could I create to meet the needs of this emerging demographic?

The answer was: many. And I did.

Let’s face it, the communication needs are similar, but spooning isn’t the same as forking.

I dusted off my workshop designing skills and created the Romance Is For the Cats and Dogs, the workshop I wrote about in last month’s newsletter. I began collaborating with all the sex educators I respected and began producing workshops and teleclasses on a host of topics, everything from Understanding Men and Women to overcoming the Green-Eyed Monster of jealousy. I did a teleclass on How To End a Bad Relationship, for those of us stuck in relationship hell and desperate to foster change in our lives. Some workshops were issue specific, and others were focused on lovestyles and the various types of relationships and experiences you might be drawn to, like my offerings for people exploring polyamory or people curious about experiencing a ménage a trios.

Oh, Three! Three is The Magic Number!

It’s when I designed the Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop (which lead to the Initiating Threesomes Teleclass), I came up with the idea that I could have volunteers from the audience role play the communication exercises with one another, and even help me create a fully clothed “Threesome Kama Sutra” on stage.

That’s when I had my first ah-ha moment!

Cuddly like Reid and Marcia? I don't think so!

Marcia Baczynski and I had been the Donnie and Marie Osmond of Cuddle Parties for nearly five years by then. I’d facilitated close to three-hundred and fifty Cuddle Parties, if not more, and had personally trained over a hundred men and women in the basics of how to facilitate Cuddle Parties. While being the Yoda of snuggling had honed my workshop facilitation and people skills to Jedi-like levels, I was itching to try new formats and topics. After five years worth of feedback and conversations with the thousands of Cuddle Party attendees, there was one thing that I noticed everyone was looking for regardless of whether is was an platonic hug or a steamy, romantic tryst: Everyone was looking for self-confidence.

After five years worth of feedback and conversations with the thousands of Cuddle Party attendees, there was one thing that I noticed everyone was looking for regardless of whether is was an platonic hug or a steamy, romantic tryst: Everyone was looking for self-confidence.

Self-esteem and confidence make us feel better. Feeling better about ourselves impacts those we love. They feel more safe and relaxed, which improves our interactions whether it’s at the breakfast table or in the bedroom.

When I set out to design workshops that weren’t Cuddle Party-related, I asked myself: What’s a common situation most folks have thought about once or twice. that seems incredibly daunting, which is also ripe with opportunities for awkward situations and clumsy mis-communications? The answer: Threesomes!

The ménage a trios provided the perfect workshop topic: The allure was there in that most folks have fantasized or at least wondered about ‘em, self-confidence was low in that most folks would probably admit to feeling less than equipped for initiating a successful three-way, and the communication skills needed to allow anyone to successfully explore such a fantasy are exactly the same ones we talk about in Cuddle Party… Bingo! I had my first workshop topic for teaching sexual self-confidence.

But how best to do that? Hmmmmm… Talking at an audience would be useful, but boring. A Power Point presentation might help, but still lacked the interactiveness that makes Cuddle Party so powerful for folks. “I couldn’t make a workshop on threesomes interactive,” I thought, “Or could I?”

Given my goofy, humorous sensibilities, and that lack-of-confidence in any situation leaves we humans prone to clumsiness and the dreaded “awkward moment,” the most powerful, interactive choice for a threesome works shop was to role play! Why not invite the audience to demonstrate exercises in a safe and humorous way, with my help, in front of the room?

Negotiating any fantasy is awkward, so let’s not hide it. Instead, let’s flaunt the awkwardness!

Negotiating any fantasy is awkward, so let’s not hide it. Instead, let’s flaunt the awkwardness! It was definitely more risqué and risky than Cuddle Party, but that would actually help. It would allow people to have their learning curves, to have fun with their nervous energy, and to laugh together as a group at how the road to great sex is often paved with silliness and awkward moments. And, like Cuddle Party, no one gets naked.

So, we gave the role playing exercises a test drive, and, boy, it was a hit!

Reid at Brown University in Providence, RI, illustrating how awkward (and funny) breaking the ice during romantic situations can be at his R-rated "Sex Educator Showdown."

Not only did we laugh ourselves silly, audience participation taught me that risqué can be not only fun, but safe as well! Titillating subject matter sprinkled with fully clothed audience participation demonstrations was an amazing education combo that was safe and popular. I no longer had to keeping things PG-rated to keep things safe.

The R-rated Reid Mihalko workshop was born!

People got so much out of watching and participating in this R-rated format full of games and exercises, that I created more. After Negotiating Successful Threesomes came The Full-Body Kiss, Clothes-On Sex!, and Bachelorette Sex Ed 101, to name a few.

The more I created and taught my R-rated workshops and heard the feedback from the participants, the more certain I became of the need for explicit education. It wasn’t that Cuddle Party’s PG-rating or an R-rated workshop were missing anything. Nothing was broken. There is a need for non-nudity, non-sexual workshops; however, once again around the area of sexual self-confidence, I saw the chance to deliver a particular type of learning opportunity…

Monkey See; Monkey Slam, Bam, Thank You, Ma’am!

It’s one thing for sex educators to talk about sex or show you pictures and graphs on a projector screen. It’s another thing entirely when sex educators show you how to do something, and invite you to ask questions… Especially when it’s not demonstrated on a piece of fruit, but on a real, live person!

The fruit laden Carmen Miranda in the Busby Berkeley directed THE GANG'S ALL HERE (1943).

Human beings are very much wired with a “monkey see, monkey do” mentality. Many of us learn best by watching. Because we are not allowed to learn about sex from watching others, our culture has turned to porn for tips and tricks in the sack.

With the ease and proliferation of free porn on the interwebs, now more than ever, porn is influencing how we behave behind closed doors (or in the back seat of our parent’s SUV). The problem with porn, in my opinion, isn’t that people are watching it; it’s that people are using porn as a How-To medium.

Watching porn isn’t the same as watching a qualified sex educator role model great communication techniques, ask permission, check in with their partner, get verbal permission from them before touching them, and then properly put a condom on while encouraging the spectators to ask questions.

The problem with porn, in my opinion, isn’t that people are watching it; it’s that people are using porn as a How-To medium.

There are several things when it comes to helping people learn about sex that are actually more easily learned if I show you the technique on a living, breathing human being and you can watch and ask us questions – an audience gets to see what “real sex” looks like. They can pick up the subtle nuances that aren’t always visible in pornography’s tightly choreographed and edited product. The more real the sex, the easier it is to grasp and transfer that feeling good and being respectful and safe has little to do with DD breasts, 12-inch cocks and squirting orgasms.

Yes, it’s a bit unorthodox by today’s standards to invite adults into a room to learn how to be a better lover by watching explicit, live demonstrations, but the simple fact is that even just talking openly about sex and intimacy in an honest and vulnerable manner is not the norm. There is so much work to be done! And there aren’t a lot of sex educators teaching explicit workshops.

Sex and relationship experts Reid Mihalko and Amy Jo Goddard in New York City about to do some demos during their popular, NC17-rated workshop, "The Ins and Outs of Hand Sex."

Great sex, for me, is 90% communication, and even when I’m teaching a technique-heavy, explicit workshop like The Ins and Outs of Hand Sex, I’m constantly trying to pass along and role model excellent communication techniques. Asking a banana for permission to put on a condom on it is actually counter productive to what I’m trying to convey in that there’s a subtle message of shame and sex-negativism: It’s bad for me to show you the real scenario happening on the Real McCoy, so here’s a piece of fruit.

With a range of workshop content spanning the gamut – PG and PG-13, to R-rated, all the way to NC17 Show-N-Tell demonstrations – adults can self-select what they’re ready for and what they’re interested in. And throughout all of it, they’re getting great role modeling for how we can all be better communicators in our lives.

Reid with a few of the super psyched students of Green Mountain College in Vermont, after his R-rated stand-up comedy/workshop on consent and boundary setting.

It is my belief that, through the process of integrating great communication tools in and out of the bedroom, we can all foster greater self-care and more self-esteem in our lives. That self-care and self-esteem gives the people in our lives permission to take care of themselves, to have and honor their own needs and boundaries, and to embrace their own self-respect and esteem. They, in turn, influence, role model and set an example for the people in their spheres of influence, upping the level of self-confidence in themselves and their communities…

And that’s how I went from creating the non-sexual, communication workshop Cuddle Party to leading NC17-rated workshops like The Ins and Outs of Handsex.

Hope to see you at a workshop sometime!

Reid and a gaggle of San Diegoans hamming it up after Reid's laughter-filled, R-rated, safer-sex workshop, "Dildos, Dental Dams, and Deep Throating!"

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Cuddle Party creator, Reid Mihalko, to lead weekend-long intensive for anyone wanting to facilitate workshops and/or Cuddle Parties!

Chicago, IL • June 25-27th, 2010

Open-to-the-Public Cuddle Party Friday night!

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,
come spend the weekend with Reid!

Foundations of Facilitation Training, created by world renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski, is a weekend-long intensive program designed to provide you with the skills you need to create powerful, transformative workshops. Created by the inventors of Cuddle Party, this training will provide you with the tools you need to enhance your confidence, create new depth to your presentations, and improve your ability to create relatedness with just about anyone. Whether you are new to running events for groups, or have been facilitating for years, this interactive, hands-on training has much to offer.

“I took my first facilitator training 30 years ago, and it’s been a long, long time since I learned so much in one weekend.” — Ankha, Minnesota

Over the course of the weekend, you will learn how to:

• create safe, non-sexual space to explore intimacy on both a personal and professional level
• lead workshops that leave your participants feeling touched, open, valued and nurtured
• generate an environment where women and men communicate more authentically
• listen profoundly
• create a powerful relatedness with strangers quickly and easily
• be more open to others and able to give and receive comfortably
• create strong boundaries for yourself without shutting others down

You will also learn:

• tools for building a strong, intimate community
• advanced tools for handling rejection
• communication techniques that open people up to discuss intimacy, desires, fears and needs

Foundations of Facilitation has trained over 200 men and women. They have consistently rated FoF as one of the best training workshops available… and these workshop junkies, facilitator black belts and self-help gurus know workshops!

“Most training weekends of this kind cost nearly a $1000. The Foundations of Facilitation training weekend is only $495 and comes with my money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So what have you got to loose? Come to Atlanta, Georgia, and spend it with me!”

~Reid

Whether you simply want to enhance your own leadership skills or become a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator, this is one weekend you won’t want to miss. Join us for one of our upcoming 2010 FoF training weekends:

Jan 22-24, 2010 in Atlanta (area), GA - lead by Len Daley
Feb 26-28, 2010 in Oakland, CA – lead by Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski
June 25-27, 2010 in Chicago, IL – lead by Reid Mihalko

Can’t get to an FoF this year? Virtual Training Options are available for qualified candidates overseas. Go to FoundationsofFacilitation.org for more info on who to contact!

Change people’s lives. REGISTER NOW for Foundations of Facilitation Training. For more information, visit the training schedule or our Training FAQ.

“I encourage anyone with a hankering to become a CP facilitator to take the leap and DO IT!  It has been one of my greatest joys for the past 3 years…after all, how many people can say that they come to work in their p’j’s, get paid to touch and be touched and it’s legal?  <3″

— Edie Weinstein, Philledelphia, PA

“Of all the workshops I’ve attended, the [Foundations of Facilitation] Training has given me the most practical and useful tools to create and maintain direct, open and honest communication with EVERYONE in my life DAILY.”

— Tracy, Alabama

No date for Valentine’s Day? No problemo!

Come meet Cuddle Party creator Reid Mihalko and as well as a whole bunch of amazing, single New Yorkers in one of our biggest Cuddle Party events of the year.

More than 10,000 women and men in cities all across America have show up and were delighted with their experience…

What will you learn?
Who will you meet!
How big will your smile be?

• Take the sting out of Cupid’s arrow
• Expand your social network
• Have some fun
• Learn and practice how to say No and not feel guilty
• Practice changing you mind – a valuable future skill for when you’re stuck in the middle of your next bad date!

Cuddling isn’t mandatory EVER at a Cuddle Party,
but being single for this event IS…

EARLY-BIRD SAVINGS and GROUP DISCOUNTS avail while they last, so order your tickets for by FEB 1st and SAVE!!

“Your first Cuddle Party was like finding some long-lost love medicine among the culturally accepted remedies that generally promote unhealthy attitudes…”
~Elaine, New York City

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Join Reid Mihalko for this playful communication workshop guranteed to take the sting out of Cupid’s arrow! Who knows, you might even meet someone! Seriously, tell everyone and come escape from the cold for a snuggl-o-licious time with a bunch of other cuddly singles!

DATE: Saturday, February 13th, 2010
TIME: 2:30-6pm EST
LOCATION: Reflections Yoga in Times Square
250 West 49th Street, 2nd floor, Times Square 10019

For more info about Cuddle Party, please go to www.cuddleparty.com

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko, co-creator of Cuddle Party, helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie. Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Well, Reid has certainly noticed, and he’s resolved in true New Years fashion is to make 2010 his year for timely newsletters!

Wanna join him on Saturday, January 9th, 2010?

Well, not only can you join him, you can join him in person at his Oakland, California event space for FREE coffee and Bailey’s while he gets his Newsletter-Butt in gear for the New Year!

“Free coffee and Bailey’s?!? What’s the catch?” you say. Shame on you! This is about writing newsletters, not about free coffee and Bailey’s while it lasts as some Skinnerian, positive reinforcement tool to get you to show up on time…

Really, no catch.Reid needs support holding himself accountable for structuring his 2010 newsletter campaign and he’s figured out  a way for us all to support one another and win, win, win!

Just RSVP and show up with your laptop or pad and pen for a write-your-asses-off, focused and facilitated, writing group workshop devoted to getting the jump on your newsletter!

In this 12-hour day, ending with a party, we will:

• Brainstorm ideas for a year’s worth of newsletters
• Create bite-sized, focused chunks for your future articles and submissions
• Map out your editorial calendar for 2010
• Create deadlines and implement reminders and Newsletter To-Dos
• Draft up much of your newsletter content for the year
• Discuss some useful tools for dealing with writer’s block
• Kick ourselves in the pants to be even more successful
• Have a blast doing it!
• And crack open a beer and/or non-alcoholic beverage to celebrate as a community when we’re done…

If you’ve got a newsletter, or would like to, come spend an entire day brainstorming, mapping out, and first-drafting an entire 2010’s worth of newsletters!

12-hours of time for twelve months of ease (and a sip of coffee and Bailey’s while it lasts, if that’s your poison)… How does that sound?

WHEN: Jan 9th, 2010 from 10am till 10pm
WHERE: Fruitopia event space, Oakland, CA

And it’s all FREE in exchange for you showing up to support Reid and the rest of us in getting our Newsletter-tardy Asses in gear for the New Year!

Doors open at 10am. We start promply at 10:30am. Please pack a meals/snacks for lunch and dinner since we’ll be working straight through!

At 10pm, we will crack open the wine and beer and non-alcoholic beverages and celebrate our jump on the New Year. Please BYOB and BYOFood for the wrap-party!

Yep, this day devoted to newsletters is FREE in exchange for you showing up and supporting Reid and the rest of us in getting our newsletter calendars planned and mostly written. (That’s how devoted Reid is to 2010 being his year of newsletters that actually go out on time!)