Battling the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy!

4-Call Podclass on Overcoming Jealousy by Understanding
and Taming Your Emotional Monsters
with Reid Mihalko

Four 90-minute Teleclasses Recordings,
Weekly Jealousy Homework Assignments,
PLUS a One-On-One, 60-minute wrap-up coaching session
with Reid Mihalko

When it comes to jealousy, many of us are left feeling like superstitious sailors who whisper of an almighty leviathan that will inevitably come for us. And when the Green-Eyed Monster rises from our emotional depths, we usually find ourselves powerless to stop it’s many arms from tearing our relationship-world apart.  Join sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for his latest informative and humorous teleclass designed to help you tackle the ugly, eight-tentacled octopus of jealousy!

Begin to Beat Jealousy from the Comfort of Your Own Home or Office!

In this 4-call podclass program, designed as a follow-up to Reid’s Day of Jealousy event, Reid will guide you through ideas, discussions and homework assignments designed to bring you into deep connection with your emotions and give you the tools to not only mitigate your jealousy, but tame it!

In this unique teleclass, you will learn…

• Where your jealousy comes from and why we’re using an octopus as a metaphor
• How to distinguish Envy, Possessiveness, Anger, Depression, and Jealousy’s four other arms
• Valuable tools for dealing with each arm, especially when it’s your partner who is being attacked!
• Tools for mitigating your “jealousy triggers”
• What the corresponding qualities are for each arm of jealousy and how to use them them to bring down the beast
• To dramatically decrease your feelings of dread and anxiety around jealousy, and lessen Jealousy’s grip on those you care about
• Ways to communicate to your loved ones how they can make your world a less jealous one
• Boundary and negotiation skills for improving your relationships no matter what emotions you’re experiencing!

If you’d given up on dealing with jealousy or resigned yourself to a life of powerlessness, please join us for what is sure to be an insightful and extremely useful journey into the uncharted seas of being empowered around Jealousy!

Stop fearing your emotions! Learn how to Navigate your feelings with more ease! Begin the Journey to Conquering your Jealousy Today!

No need to travel to a distant city for a workshop!
Just Download and Listen and Learn!

Podclass Course Fee:
Only $97

REMEMBER: Upon completing the podclasses and the course homework, you get an Hour-Long, 1-On-1, follow-up phone coaching session with Reid himself! (This alone is worth several times the course fee so register asap!)

Register by Clicking the Button Above

Questions? Email Reid at reid (at) reidaboutsex (dot) com
or call 917.207.4554

A full, 100% money-back refund if you aren’t completely satisfied!

REID MIHALKO: Reid helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

60-minutes that will change the way you think about dating and relationships!

Hey, single ladies…

Are you ready to be in a relationship? A really good relationship? Are you wondering where all the “good ones” are and how you can find the kind of love you’ve always wanted? Then join Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com and Marcia Baczynski for Ready to Be in a Relationship: Successful Dating and Partnership for Single Women!

Reid and Marcia will discuss the five most common obstacles single women face in finding great relationships, and some simple steps you can take to increase your odds of getting the love you want. Find out where the good ones are hiding, what to do when you’re not getting clear signals of interest, and the three ways women sabotage their chances at successful partnership (and what to do about it).

If you’ve never heard these two present together, you’re in for a real treat. As friends, collaborators and colleagues for over six years, Reid and Marcia have developed dozens of workshops (including the world-famous Cuddle Party) and are joining forces again for this rare joint appearance. Their easy rapport, hilarious approach and commitment to delivering valuable content makes them one of the best duos in the world of relationship education.

Could it be any better? We think so… that’s why this teleclass is 100% f-r-e-e.

WHEN: Tues Apr 27th at 8pm EDT / 5pm PTD
WHERE: The comfort and privacy of your own home, car, or office. Just dial-in!

Can’t make the call? No problemo. Everyone who registers will receive a download link for the call recording.

Don’t wait! Register NOW for this hour-long tele-seminar that will change everything you know about dating.

ABOUT MARCIA: Marcia Baczynski is the head relationship coach at Ideal Balance Inc, a lifestyle coaching company for professional and entrepreneurial women.

A graduate of the University of Georgia and San Francisco Sex Information, Marcia is also well-known for being co-creator of Cuddle Party, a workshop/social event about boundaries, communication, intimacy and touch. Started in 2004, Cuddle Party events have spread globally, with over 50 facilitators in five countries. Marcia has made appearances on the Montel Williams show, People magazine, Fox News, Penn & Teller’s Bullsh*t, NPR, GQ, Marie Claire and Newsweek. She splits her time between San Francisco and New York.

Marcia can be reached at 1-800-208-0913 and marcia (at) idealbalanceinc (dot) com

Reid Mihalko: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Pain getting in the way of your sexy-sexy time? There’s often more you can do to reclaim your lovelife than you think!

• Do you or someone you care about suffer from acute of chornic pain?
• Finding it difficult to have a fulfilling love life because your body or a partner’s is consistently in pain?
• Are you at a loss for how best to support your sex-life in and out of the bedroom?

According to the American Academy of Pain Management’s website, an estimated 50 million Americans live with chronic pain caused by disease, disorder or accident. An additional 25 million people suffer acute pain resulting from surgery or accident. Approximately two thirds of these individuals in pain have been living with this pain for more than five years. That’s a lot of time feeling less-than-sexy…

Recorded: April 7th, 2010
Available for Download NOW!
COST: Free

Regardless of how you define acute and chronic pain, any pain that extends beyond the expected period of healing or is the secondary cause of a disease can wreak havoc on a relationship and a love life.

Join sex and relationship experts Reid Mihalko and  Lisa Skye Carle for this 90-miute podcast devoted to chronic pain and sex.

In this informative and frank FREE teleclass, Reid and Lisa will cover:

• The impact of chronic pain on couples and how to mitigate it to bring the sexy back!
• Resources and how to Google adaptive sex toys and equipment to aide in you and your partner in the pursuit of passionate pleasure
• Lovemaking positions that will work for you and partner, how to discover which work best, and how to talk about it
• How to avoid falling into the not-so-sexy roles of the “person in pain” and “the helper”
• How the “care taker” power dynamic can affect desire/intimacy, how to talk about it, and what to do about it
• And much more!

Whether you or someone you know suffers from arthritis, lower back, bone/joint pain, muscle pain or fibromyalgia, etc.; or if you’re someone who works with this demographic, this podclass, focusing on how to reclaim your sexuality and lovelife, is sure to shed some illumination on an area of pain management that gets little, if any, attention.

ABOUT LISA: Lisa Skye Carle has worked in the field of Holistic Health since 1982.  She received her Bachelor’s Degree in Biological Anthropology and Physiology from UC San Diego in 1988. Lisa holds California State approved advanced certifications in both Massage Therapy and Sexological Bodywork.  She has over 18 years of professional massage and bodywork experience. She is a Certified Sex Educator from the San Francisco Sex Information Center and she holds a Somatic Sex Educator certificate from The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is also an active member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

Lisa draws upon her extensive experience in sex education, bodywork and myofascial release, somatic therapy, breath-work, mindfulness meditation, client pain management, Taoist and Tantric practices as well as sexual healing to assist her clients to realize their fullest potential.

Lisa brings her passion, intuition and unconditionally loving presence to her work to create a safe container where her clients can explore, heal and learn without guilt or shame

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Is there a secret beyond the Secret? Kamala Devi thinks so!

Can Sex Magic help you supercharge your goals and upgrade your life? How does this ancient tantric method of Manifestation really work? Can you do this practice solo? Can you do it with a beloved? What about in a group?!

Reid Mihalko offers a down to earth, practical interview with sacred sexuality coach and author Kamala Devi as she breaks down, demystifies, and makes understandable the nature and practice of “Sex Magic.”

DATE: March 22nd
TIME: 8:30-9:30PM EST/5:30-6:30pm Pacific
COST: FREE
WHERE: The comfort of your own home or office! Register for Dial-In Codes to this FREE Teleclass!
Can’t be on the call? No worries. Everyone who registers will receive the download link for the call recording!

According to Kamala: “The Secret is out! Everyone knows about the law of attraction. But not everyone knows how to use it! AND the Secret beyond the secret: is Sex Magic!”

Kamala Devi invites Reid and you to focus your attentions and intentions during love making to bring about your wildest dreams! Listen in as Reid and Kamala discuss the basic, 7-method formula that demystifys this occult practice, and makes it safe and accessible to just about anyone.

In this practical, 60-minute tele-class Kamala will give Reid (and you, too) the download on Sex Magic and The SHAMAN Method, which involves:

• Instruction for Strategic Goal Setting
• Stimulating the visualization process
• Creative Procedures for manifestation
• How to supercharge your results
• Creating a realistic plan to make it work
• And much more!

ABOUT KAMALA: Kamala Devi of BlissCoach.com is the author of Sacred Sexual Healing: The SHAMAN Method of Sex Magic. She’s been studying and teaching Tantra and sacred sexuality around the world in the last 7 years and recently appeared on the Discovery Channel, Morning Show Live, Inside Edition, and the Tyra Banks Show.

She is also the Author of Don’t Drink the Punch: An Adventure in Tantra and she’s recently released new DVD with Reid Mihalko entitled: Earning your BLACKBELT in Relationship.

Photo Credit: Kamala was commissioned by www.sss-now.org

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Many thanks for what we accomplished together this year…

Hey, gang!

Impending New Year’s greetings from Northern California where I’m holed up in a cabin with some close friends gearing up to ring in the New Year… Today we close ‘09 and open up ‘10… ‘010? 2010! You get the picture…

Even though this is my vacation, as the early morning mists creep up the hill through the surrounding Red Wood trees, I’ve been slipping out of bed, tip toeing to the coffee maker and brewing a heaping pot o’ the morning joe. As the rest of the house sleeps, after adding my Bailey’s, I grab my coffee and my laptop to log in a few hours of work as is my workaholic routine (which, btw, happens to be a good thing when you’re an entrepreneur sex and relationship educator as I am!). I’ve learned that a few hours of calendaring, writing, website updating, and the reading other’s blogs allows me to relax the rest of the day. And so it is…

This morning, I am reminded by how so very blessed I am to be able to do what I do, and it’s because of YOU that I get to do it. So, before the world kicks off another year, I wanted to thank you for accompanying me on my journey in 2009.

Whether this is the first time you’ve visited my website or the 100th time… Whether you’ve just signed up for my newsletter, downloaded your first podcast, attended a dozen workshops, or hired me for relationship coaching… It all boils down to this: my world doesn’t work without your support and participation. So, during these last moments of 2009, I send you MUCH, MUCH GRATITUDE for helping me making this a break out year for ReidAboutSex.

I hope you got as much out of 2009 as I did. This was a HUGELY busy year for me and, in looking back over the last 12-months, it seemed appropriate to summarize and share what we accomplished this year.

Thusly, our year in review, the highlights…

I kicked off 2009 by launching the first of many of my more “edgy” workshops and many people turned out for ‘em!

Having recently turned Cuddle Party, the G-Rated, pop-culture phenomenon communication (even SNL did a skit on us) workshop about nonsexual affection and social intimacy that launched my career, into a non-profit (not that it was making a profit – insert snare-drum ba-dump-bump!), I was free to venture into more salacious sex ed territory without damaging Cuddle Party’s sterling reputation. Following my instincts would eventually lead to me creating a rating system for my workshops analogous to the film and television industries’ rating system.

The first of my edgier offerings would be the playful and salacious Negotiating Successful Threesomes (With Live Demonstrations!) at San Francisco’s Center for Sex and Culture.

The first of my R-Rated workshops, Negotiating Successful Threesomes was designed to have – shock! gasp! – “live demonstrations!” The demos consisted of friends of mine (and later on, audience volunteers) acting out fully-clothed versions out of my Threesome Kama Sutra along with practicing the communicating and ice-breaking tools and techniques that the workshop delves into. It was a huge success and so much fun that I immediately turned up the heat and began considering what my first NC-17 Rated workshop would be. That workshop wouldn’t launch for another few months…

2009 was also the year that February 13th, the day before St. Valentine’s Day, just happened to be a Friday… The combination of Friday the 13th falling before Valentine’s Day inspired me to declare every Friday the 13th, National End a Bad Relationship Day!

Sometimes, the first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is to end the nightmare relationship you’re currently in, so I held a teleclass on how to break up with panaché.

On the website front, I finally began the reorganization of the ReidAboutSex website. The first step was to begin gathering all the disparate posts and announcements and herding all of my free products and podcasts onto one easy-to-click on page of FREE Reid Stuff… One of the fun parts was dusting off my art school degree, double-clicking on my copy of Adobe Photoshop and designing a few eye-grabbing buttons to promote things. This would become the eventual home of podcasts Women Who Give Too Much with Diana Adams, and the hugely popular Energetic Sex: From Mystical to Practical podcast.

March would find me kicking off the first teaching trip of the year, landing me in our nation’s capitol, Washington DC, to teach several workshop for WholeDC. 2009 would end up being a year full of lots of traveling and teaching!

Cuddle Party would get a mention on the annimated show King of the Hill in March.

In April, I got up the gumption to run my first NC-17 Rated workshop, a workshop for adults age 18 and over where some of the demonstrations would be sexually explicit. Why? Because, as a sex educator, there are some things that are just plain easier to teach folks if I demonstrate them on a living, breathing human being while the audience watches and gets to ask the both of us questions. Let’s face it, in today’s culture many folks get their sex education from watching porn, and watching porn to learn how to be a better lover is like watching The Fast and the Furious to learn how to drive!

Let’s face it, in today’s culture many folks get their sex education from watching porn, and watching porn to learn how to be a better lover is like watching The Fast and the Furious to learn how to drive!

My first NC-17 workshop was The Ergonomics of Dynamic and Dynamite Sex. My goofy sense of humor, shameless view on sex between two consenting adults, and pragmatic approach to having sex in a way that was easier on your body (ergonomics) was a huge success. That was all the proof I needed to begin creating a slew of R-Rated and NC-17 Rated workshops.

And it would be in Sedona, Arizona that May, while attending the annual Sedona Daka-Dakini Conference where I was invited to speak on the topic of sexual healing work with rape and incest survivors that I would be asked to co-organize what would end up being two conferences on the East Coast in the Fall. (Little did I know that these conferences would turn into a huge win-win for everyone in my sex positive world!)

Later that May, I would pull-off one of my biggest teleclass achievements in 2009, the widely successful and still frequently downloaded, Day of Jealousy, where I got 13 of my favorite sex and relationship experts together across several calls to share their views, tips and personal stories on the great Green-Eyed Monster of Jealousy!

The next month, June, I would get the great opportunity to sit down and interview one of my sex ed heroes, mentor and friend Dossie Easton, co-author of the historic text, The Ethical Slut to talk about the release of it’s long awaited 2nd edition! It would take me the rest of 2009 to finally get the video footage from that interview edited and uploaded on to my YouTube “ReidAboutSex” Channel and posted on my site…

June would also find me in San Diego with the amazing Tantra and Polyamory educator and community leader, Kamala Devi, for a week of teaching and frolicking… The week would culminate with Kamala Devi and I shooting our first DVD together – Earning Your BLACKBELT in Relationships. Though it would take the rest of the year for us to edit the final footage, and I would have trouble designing the cover art ($80K of art school education back in action, remember!?), it was an amazing experience and I couldn’t have done it without the tenacious and tender Kamala Devi cracking her velvety whip! The official release party is this Jan 30th in SD, btw! Get your tickets and come join us…

Somewhere along the way,  I joined the Twitter craze and became quite proficient in updating my Facebook status, uploading recent photos of my exploits, and even have links on my site so people can friend and Tweet me. At some point I’ll reach the point of needing to have a FB Fan Page, but for now, I’m quite content with my many friends and using Facebook for buisness and pleasure.

As the saying goes, “Business before pleasure unless pleasure is your business!”

In July, I shared my love of, and savvy for, running teleclasses with my fellow sex positive professionals and taught a workshop on how to design and run your own teleclasses. I couldn’t tell you how many teleclasses I’ve run in the nearly 6-years since Cuddle Party launched my career, but this I can say: If you’re going to ever run a teleclass on how to run teleclasses, don’t be surprised if everything that could go wrong goes wrong! In a befitting twist of “Here is how to be powerful even when something goes wrong,” my 4-week teleclass (available for download) had about a million things go wrong. You’ll be happy to know that I was an excellent role model for “how to fix a glitch” and the “what to do when something goes awry.” The class and the workbook that goes with it came out great, btw, but it was a humbling and illuminating experience to say the least!

Speaking of illumination, as a “sex educator of sex educators,” I found that many of the struggles I’m encountering with the growing my own business and skills as a sex educator have been valuable for my peers when I’ve shared them. I admit it’s a bit vulnerable at times sharing what I’m having challenges with in my life to the world at large; however, business is a lot like love when it comes to communication and growth (and having good days and bad days). So, in the interest of role modeling things that are essential to making relationships sustainable, 2009 was the year that I stepped up my own personal practice a notch and began sharing my challenges and growth edges with my fellow sex educators. Vulnerability and transparency are key, right?

To check out what new things I’m up to for my Sex Educator peeps and Sex-Positive Professional peers, check out my ReidAboutSex Pro-Series products.

The end of Summer and Fall were pretty much consumed by the two Tantra Conferences I was organizing for the East Coast. So consuming in fact, that I chose not to attend the Burning Man Arts Festival in Black Rock City, Nevada. Three years ago I had founded the first large scale queer women’s/lesbian camp at the festival - Camp Beaverton for Wayward Girls. To date, it is one of my most proud commmunity bilding achievments. I note it here as a plug for anyone reading this who’d like to support the Beavers as they fund raise for this years trip to the desert. To learn more about the exploits of the Beavers, go to www.CampBeaverton.org. Go, Beavers!

The campers of Camp Beaverton for Wayward Girls 2007

As you can tell by this year’s accomplishments, I’m not your “normal” sex and relationship educator, and 2009 was the year, in my opinion, when I was finally able to make sense of my diverse and crazy way of approaching sex education. I’d heard from lots of marketing gurus that I was going about it “all wrong.” Their advice was to either “stick with Cuddle Party,” or “pick one niche within sex ed and target just that.” But, to me, there’s so much to talk about when it comes to sex and relationships and intimacy and love. I understood from a marketing point of view, the value of niching, but my intuition kept tugging me in a different direction. It wasn’t until the middle of this year that I began to see what the “Reid Brand” was, and, as the URL states, I am “about sex.” Plain and simple, and so very, very diverse and large and encompassing…. More than pointers on flirting, or podcasts on battling jealousy, or advice on how to understand men and women… I’m, literally, all about sex, all about relationships, love and intimacy, and everything in between.

I’d heard from lots of marketing gurus that I was going about it “all wrong.” Their advice was to either “stick with Cuddle Party,” or “pick one niche within sex ed and target just that.”

This was the year I gave myself permission to just be me, all of me. Not half of me, or what some marketing guru thought America could handle… And, like the advice I dole out to my clients in emails and one-on-one sessions, I began to not hide myself and who I am. America is ready for me, or at the least, I should empower them to chose for themselves if they’re ready or not. Who am I to “turn down the volume” on who I am and what makes me happy so that people feel comfortable? The more powerful and respectful choice is to empower them to choose for themselves, to hold them -and you- capable of saying yay or nay.

So, after running two successful conferences and nearly a year’s worth of PG-13 Rated, R-Rated and NC-17 Rated workshops, as well as a slew of teleclasses and podcast interviews, it was time for me to head to Hollywood and pitch… You guessed it: a reality show! Yep, I created a show about relationships and was off to the land of Lost Angels to squire my creative genius the big leagues of the cable TV industry…

It’s a long story, so I won’t go into it too much, but the short version goes like this:

1. Reid creates a scripted damadie (comedy + drama) series about alternative relationships called Polly And Marie ten years ago…
2. Eight years later, the pilot gets produced by an independent producer in LA and HBO almost buys it…
3. Said producer asks Reid to help him create a reality show on alternative relationships in 2008 and they film the teaser reel to help pitch the show…
4. After lots of legal negotiations, the initial paper work is signed and one of the top reality show producers in LA begins setting up appointments for the show to be pitched staring in November…

As fate would have it, I am contacted by Green Mountain College in Vermont and they ask me to fly to their college to be the headliner presenter for their annual Sexpo Day. This ends up happening the night before my first big reality show pitch meeting in Hollywood… I get up at 3am to drive from Poultney, VT, to the Albany Airport to fly to Hollywood to make my meeting. Thankfully, everything goes smoothly. Yikes!

Reid Mihalko with the enthusiastic students of Vermont's Green Mountain College!

November 19th, my “team” consisting of some of the best reality show and film producers in the business begin pitching our reality show creation to a few major networks. Our team is immediately confronted by concerns from network execs regarding demographics and advertising. While we had accounted for this, it was still amazing to sit in in a room of executives fielding their concerns… Apparently, women behaving badly and stabbing one another in the back to marry a millionaire is more appealing to advertisers trying to sell soap and shaving cream than a show about open relationships founded on the principles of honesty and transparency. Go figure!?!

Apparently, women behaving badly and stabbing one another in the back to marry a millionaire is more appealing to advertisers trying to sell soap and shaving cream than a show about open relationships founded on the principles of honesty and transparency.

Our next pitch meeting is scheduled for Jan 13th in Los Angeles and I’ll keep you posted!

Whew! And that brings us to these last few weeks and the holiday break.

Woefully behind on a few projects (mostly having to do with scheduling teleclasses and workshops and writing promotional copy), I cleaned off as much of my desk as I could, threw some clothes and my computer into a suitcase, and flew to see the family. In between playing with my nieces and nephews, early in the mornings I would secretly creep to my computer to continue plotting out 2010… And here we are: This hopefully, sensical wrap-up of 2009…

And, as if the Universe was trying to tell me something (I’m not sure what, tho!), yesterday I found an autographed picture of moi for sale on eBay. It’s a head shot photo of me from back in my acting days appearing on Guidling Light or Another World or As The World Turns…. Bid staring at $24.99, btw!

Somehow, this seemed a fitting way to close the year for me, and in celebration of my past acting career, I leave you with this clip from 1999 when I appeared for the first time on Comedy Central’s The Daily Show with Jon Stewart…

In 2010, expect lots of workshops, teleclasses, and hopefully a HUGE announcement regarding the sale of my reality show… If you have friends or colleagues who need some relationship coaching, send ‘em my way… And I hope to see you at a workshop sometime soon!

Thanks again for being a part of my work and my journey. I hope the things I’m up to have helped create more freedom and self-expression for you in your bedroom and outside of it!

As we step into this New Year, my wish for you comes from one of my favorite toasts (I apologize that I can’t recall where I found it): May the most you ever ask for be the least you ever get!

Happy New Year!

~REiD

Join Reid Mihalko as Sarah Sloane teaches him how to hire an assistant!

• Are you a sex educator, workshop leader or sex-positive professional who’s hit the ceiling on what you can get done in a day?
• Have a sneaking suspicion that you could make more money doing what you love if you could delegate those daily, menial tasks and weekly, recurring duties that suck up all your time?
• Not sure what tasks you could offload (delegate), or don’t have a clue how you’d go about hiring the right person if you did?
• Perhaps you’ve hired an assistant (or several), only to end up spending more time and money on trying to train them than it was worth?

If you are you amazing when it comes to midwifing people’s personal growth, but less-than-superlative when it comes to organizing your to do list… If you’re unsure whether you should be hiring an assistant or not, or paralyzed at the prospect of letting go of the reins even though you know, to catapult yourself to the next level, you must… The good news is: You are not alone!

Like you, I’m completely maxed-out promoting my current workshops while scheduling the next round, trying to land coaching clients while coaching the ones I do have, and tending to my several other projects while updating my Facebook status and Tweeting my lover that I’m going to be late for dinner! Add to that that a liberal dose of control freak, and sprinkle on top of that that I can’t afford to waste my time or make costly mistakes, and… Well, you get the picture.

If any of this is resonating for you (or if you’re too stressed out to feel if it does or not), please join me as I interview my superbly talented friend and peer, sex educator and organizatrix extraordinaire, Sarah Sloane, and get her advice on how I should hire an assistant.

Why call Sarah, and why share the call with you?

2009 was one of my most successful years to date and I’ve reached the level of business (and busyness) in my career as a sex and relationship expert that I’m beginning to lose money, clients and opportunities by NOT hiring an assistant.

There are only so many hours in a day, and so many cups of coffee and Bailey’s I can chug, right? I’ve reached my limits for what I can do solo, and I know that many of you are in similar situations.

As a sex educator who teaches other sex educators, and in my continuing efforts to support my fellow sex-positive peers, I’ve asked Sarah to share with me how she approaches organizing her own busy life, how she runs her successful business as a productivity/organization coach & assistant to some of the country’s top sex educators, and to teach me the basics on hiring an assistant.

In our 90-minute, downloadable podcast, Sarah and I cover:

• How to know when you need somebody
• How to determine what tasks can be passed off and what duties need your personal touch – and why!
• How to determine what you should be asking/looking for
• What the essential qualifications are for YOU in an assistant
• How to being looking (and where to find) an assistant that is a good fit for your style of doing things
• Ways to make turning that work over less painful no matter how much of a control freak you are!
• Plus, you’ll hear callers pick Sarah’s brain and get their own questions answered

We’ve got a lot of ground to cover in one call, but I promise you it will be worth it! Even if you think you don’t need an assistant yet, this call and the information and tips and tricks Sarah is going to share from her own personal journey could quite possibly take your business rocketing into the new year!

Can’t make the call? No worries! Everyone who registers for this call will receive a download link for the call recording.

Recorded: January 12, 2010
AVAILABLE FOR IMMEDIATE DOWNLOAD!
Cost: only $9.99

ABOUT SARAH: Sarah Sloane is a sex & relationship educator, writer, and speaker based in the Washington DC area. In the past eight years, she has taught literally thousands of people across the US, in Canada, and overseas; in the past three, her writing has been featured on websites such as SexIs Magazine, Alternet, and other forward thinking, thought provoking sources of information and ideas. In 2009, she formally started Equilibrium Consulting, a company that works to help sex positive professionals find balance in their lives through virtual assistant, creative, and strategic planning & coaching services. Sarah’s guiding belief is that each of us, through compassion and service, can create not only the lives and work that we deserve, but the world that we want to inhabit.

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Many people who are drawn to the sexuality field have a hard time figuring out what path to take in order to do the work they want to do. The sexuality field is diverse and blossoming, and people can create careers in many ways. And, as with sex, there isn’t just “one way” to do it or get there when it comes to entering this growing and exciting field.

• Do you have a passion for sexuality?
• Do all of your friends come to YOU for sex and relationship advice?
• Want to work as a sex educator or a sexual health or rights advocate and don’t know where to begin or how to craft a career out of it?
• Already working or dabbling in the sex education field, but feel stuck or aren’t getting to do the type of work you feel called to do?

Join renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Amy Jo Goddard for a candid and insightful talk about becoming a sex educator!

Amy Jo and Reid have each used their resourcefulness, creativity, drive and passion to create fulfilling and dynamic careers in the sexuality field. They’ll share their stories, offer resources and ideas, and answer callers’ questions.

If you are thinking about a path that involves sex education, advocacy or therapy/coaching, this podcast is for you.

Call Recorded: Monday, January 18, 2010
Be listening to sage advice within minutes!

ABOUT AMY JO: Amy Jo Goddard is a sexuality educator & trainer, writer, performing artist and activist. She travels to colleges, universities, communities and conferences teaching workshops and speaking about sexuality and maintains a private sex coaching practice. She is co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men and is a contributing author of All About Sex: A Family Resource Guide on Sex and Sexuality. Her article about queer performance artists and activism was published in 2007 in the Social Justice Journal and she has been published in numerous other publications including LOFT and Bust Magazine. Amy Jo was host of CherryBomb.com’s web stream program “Fresh Advice,” developing, researching, writing and performing over 60 episodes on women’s sexuality.

A professional trainer of sexuality professionals, medical students, college students and youth for fifteen years, she has taught courses relating to sexuality at the City University of New York and the University of California at Santa Barbara. Amy Jo has taught breast and pelvic exams to medical/nursing students for 8 years and she is director/producer of the forthcoming documentary, At Your Cervix, a film that depicts this unusual work.

She is launching an intensive 6-month sexuality empowerment apprenticeship for women in New York City.

Amy Jo can be found on the internet at: www.amyjogoddard.com and www.atyourcervixmovie.com

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko helps people create more self-esteem and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be or where their interests lie.

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Turn your luck around this Friday the 13th by joining world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko as he declares Friday, November 13th, National End a Bad Relationship Day!

If you’ve ever had a bad relationship or are currently stuck in one, this hilariously frank and practical 90-minute teleclass, (first held, auspiciously, on the day before Valentine’s 2009, which was a Friday that year), will teach you how to end your bad relationships with panaché…

Learn More HERE!

Forgive & Reinvent:
Dusting Off Your Relationships and Making Them Shine!

Free, 60-Minute, Downloadable Teleclass Podcast with Reid Mihalko and Carla Tara

• • Are you angry with your partner?
• • Are you experiencing less intimacy the longer you stay together?
• • Do you still love your partner, and would like to recapture the passion you once shared?

Join Intimacy coach and SelfGrowth.com Featured Expert Carla Tara along with Sex & Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko for this special 60-minute conversation on how to recreate your relationship without having to find someone new.

Recorded: Wed, Sept 30, 2009 and Ready for Download Now!

In this free teleclass, also available for download to those who register, Carla Tara and Reid will cover:

• • Moving from a place of anger into forgiveness and compassion
• • How to replace old habits of criticism and control of your partner, with the fresh dynamics of support and love that won’t feel like B.S. to you or them
• • How to “Recession-Proof” your relationship
• • Tools that will bring you closer together emotionally, grounding your partnership so that you can face whatever life throws at you as a team
• • Every-day, easy ways to rekindle intimacy and passion in your relationship (Carla will share some of her sexy bedroom secrets!)
• • How see your partner (and be seen by them!) in a whole new light!

Whether you’re a Baby Boomer who has been married for 25 years, or are in a brand new relationship, you’ll learn how to move past grudges into recreating your relationship, recapturing the things you love about loving the most, as well as intimacy tips from two of the foremost experts in their fields.

This Downloadable Teleclass is absolutely FREE!

Tell your friends, tell your parents and grandparents and invite your partner to listen in! If you find this podcast useful, and you’re a Baby Boomer, then check out to see when Carla Tara’s next Booming Relationships workshop is, too… This 2-day, relationship and intimacy workshop developed specifically for Baby Boomers might be just what the doctor ordered!

Register Now and be listening to the Call Recording in minutes!

ABOUT CARLA: Carla Tara has raised two of her own children and is now a youthful grandmother who can be as spontaneous as her grandchildren. A charismatic Baby Boomer herself, Carla believes this is a special time for Baby Boomers to re-invent themselves, have more fun, and renew their commitment to openness and personal expression. To this end, she has developed this timely new workshop: Booming Relationships.

Carla Tara’s qualifications include a background in psychotherapy, which gives her insights into the complexity of the human mind and behavior, 20 years of relationship counseling, 15 years of Sacred Sexuality teaching, as well as her living example of health and fitness stemming from her teaching of Yoga, and her extensive knowledge of empowering breaths and nutrition. She has helped literally thousands of individuals and hundreds of couples reach their highest potential in relationships.

In Booming Relationships, Carla Tara will look with you at the stresses that can accompany this time of change in your life, know that they are normal, and reframe them with tools from varied psycho therapeutic approaches. This workshop aims to help you transform the mindset commonly accepted by society, that ‘you should behave your age’ or ‘old dogs don’t learn new tricks’ into a positive mindset that says you now have the best part of your life in front of you. Carla loves to say: ‘People don’t stop moving because they are old, they are old because they have stopped moving!’

Carla Tara is an exciting spokesperson who lives what she teaches. She loves sharing her wisdom and in Booming Relationships will guide you through the most rewarding part of your life, lightening up the often heavy load of responsibilities, and encouraging play while growing deeper in love with your partner.

Carla has been interviewed by Time Out Magazine, New Realities TV and Francesca Vitale among many others. She been a guest speaker on Panel discussions at New York’s New Life Expo and lectured at the Sedona Temple, AZ.As the host of “Tantra Today” on VoiceAmerica radio network, she presented a series of 20 interviews with major Tantra teachers, including Charles Muir, Lori Grace, and Kutira and Raphael. As well as developing a thriving private practice, Carla has taught workshops at Lori Grace’s Sunrise Center in California, at New York’s Open Center, and in Maui.

To see more of Carla’s work, visit her website at http://CarlaTara.com and http://BoomingRelationships.com

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihako and his website ReidAboutSex.com are the voices of relationship-reason and sexual pragmatism that don’t dash hopes but encourage us to dream. In Reid’s world, you get to have your cake and eat it, too, and you get to have the relationship of your dreams. The catch? You’ve got to do the work and show up for it!

From creating non-sexual pop-cultural phenomena like Cuddle Party to working with men and women on healing sexual shame and beating jealousy, Reid’s approach to freedom and self-expression in love and relationships is simple: “Relationships work best and more smoothly when you date and partner with people who are thrilled by you being 100%, undiluted you!”

Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity and transparency, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating. He is an expert in relationship dynamics and “love pragmatism.” He has been a writer and producer on a number of film and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Community as a Spiritual Practice:
Using Peer-driven Experiential and Collaborative Learning To Deepen Your Awareness and Expand Your Reach in Sacred Sexuality…

Free Podcast Download with Baba Dez Nichols, Reid Mihalko & Daka-Dakini Conference East Presenters

Download this FREE 75-minute Podcast NOW!

• I loved how each of the experts explained in their own
• way that community does not have to be just where
• you are, it’s as close as the telephone, or attending a
• conference.  Also that community does not have to be an
• energy/sex healers exchange. It can just be a circle or potluck.
• The exchange is ongoing whenever “healers” are in close proximity.
• ~Monique, Utah

Feeling alone in your spirituality and practice? Perhaps you’re the only person you know in your town or city who’s diving deep into the waters of sacred sexuality work as teacher/educator and you’re fatigued by trailblazing solo? Maybe you’re a successful community leader who’s built a thriving network of students and seekers, but there’s no one that you feel safe turning to when you need to “not be on?”

On the path of Sacred Sexuality, much of our work is done in the “interior world.” But there does come a time when many of us reach a point where we’ve gone as far as we’re going to go alone, or even with a partner. This is the time when community support is most vital to deepen our practice and catapult us into the next phase of our growth.

However, for those of us who are community leaders, it can sometimes be tricky taking off the “mentor hat” and letting our community support our own growth, and, in some instances, it’s actually not appropriate. It can feel unsafe,  which makes diving in more difficult. And, then, not all students are in a place to hold space for us as we go through our shadow work as we peel off the next layer and dive deeper. And it is rare, a community that has gathered around a teacher that can give all of the kinds of witnessing needed to nourish and sustain ourselves.

When we grow malnourished as teachers and reach a state of depletion because we have needs that are not being met, the very source of our joy -giving of ourselves in service of helping people- becomes dangerously low and our ability to give unselfishly becomes compromised…

Sound familiar? If not you, perhaps you know a teacher or guru or educator who’s gone through this cycle or is in it now… Well, the good news is this: It doesn’t have to be this way!

Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko along with Baba Dez Nichols, founder of the International School for the Temple Arts, and the Sacred Sexuality experts of this October’s East Coast Daka-Dakini Conference for “Community as a Spiritual Practice,” a teleconference discussion on the use of experiential and collaborative learning and peer community gathering to nourish and replenish ourselves as practitioners and healers!

In this quick but powerful 75-minute teleconference, you will discover…

• • The differences between community support and peer support
• • What is Peermanship and why we as teachers and seekers for our own growth need it
• • How experiential learning as a peer group and networking your peers can be more than just a “good business move” and how can it feed, nourish and sustain your wellbeing
• • Why “taking a vacation” isn’t all that you need to stay vibrant as a healer!
• • The personal stories from successful Sacred Sexuality Teachers and Communities Leaders on how they nourish themselves and their own practices
• • Resources, conferences, and websites you can access to source getting your own needs met!

Spread the word and invite your friends to join us on this call as we explore the value of experiential and collaborative learning, and discuss the importance of community and peermanship as two of the most overlooked and undervalued tools we can give ourselves as teachers, leaders, and practitioners in the digital age. Listen in and ask questions as we come together. Begin creating alliances, raising consciousness, and cultivating professionalism with us in this call.

Register and be listening to this recorded call in minutes!

Interested in attending the Daka-Dakini Sacred Sexuality East Coast Conference?

Click HERE to Meet the Presenters!

As I’ve watched myself grow as an educator and a business owner over the past 5-years since Cuddle Party exploded onto the media -and continues to explode (Here’s a recent media appearance of CP’s, btw, on NBC, no less!)- I have to admit that I can’t always remember when and where I grew, what shifted for me, or how I “all of a sudden” dropped feeling shameful about “selling myself.”

The confidence and un-abashedness that I’ve stepped into has definitely been responsible for much of my success as well as the Synergy that I’m experiencing in my professional (and personal life). However, a huge amount of the business savvy I’ve picked up was by making lots of mistakes. The rest came from very smart and successful friends of mine who gave me tons of advice and support. Again, similar to my growth as an educator, so many things have shifted for me in my practice of business since 2004 that it’s hard to keep track of it all.

So, here’s my dilemma: If I can’t keep track of my own growth or retrace how it unfolded (or, at least, not retrace it well), and I’m passionate about sharing it with other healers, sex educators, teachers and practitioners, what am I to do?

Here’s what I’ve come up with: I’ve decided to begin tapping some of my business savvy peers and friends and mentors and giving them the intellectual shakedown.

Okay, maybe not a shakedown, but how about a strong invitation to share with me again what they’ve learned? Yep, I’m going to chat them up, pick their brains, and grill ‘em for their best business practices, tips, perspectives and know-how. And I’ll be filtering their expertise through my lens of “How does this apply to sex-positive and pleasure positive professionals?” which should help make things more accessible to you and me. And since I’m also going to be grilling these amazing people to increase my own business mojo as well, you’ll get lots of insider info on how I’m applying what they have to teach us to my own business and career.

These experts are “business geeks” like I’m a “sex geek!”

Some of these talks will be free, some will be paid for, but know this: the men and women with whom I’ll be collaborating are business geeks in the way that I’m a sex geek! Whether or not a teleclass/podclass is paid or for free, my job is to make this worth you time. Why? Because I want to increase the success of my peers and raise the caliber of sex education and relationship education in America. A grandiose statement perhaps, but a game well worth playing, I think!

That said, please join me for what promises to be a kick-butt call with my friend and uber successful executive coach Bryan Franklin on how he coaches his own business clients and his unique (and not cheap!) coaching program that teaches committed individuals how to add coaching to their existing businesses. And you can get a ton of info on Bryan’s perspectives and approach for free. Why? ‘Cause one of the key (and radical) principles in Bryan’s work is Give it away, give it away, give it away!

What can an executive coach who’s worked with Google and Linkedin have to share in 90-minutes that will increase my sex-positive practice? Reid says, “Get on the call and find out!

Call Recorded on Wed, August 12th, 2009 Register Now and Be Listening In Minutes!

For those of you thinking, “Executive coach? But I work in the sex education industry?” I want you to trust me. There’s a reason Bryan and I decided to do this teleclass! And it’s not just his coaching mojo that I’m after Bryan for in this free call… If I can manage it in the 90-minutes to two hours I’ve alloted us, I’ll twist Bryan’s arm till he shares a little bit about his particular take on sales and the art of selling yourself! (Something I used to be completely horrible at.)

Here’s a little of what Bryan and I will be talking about….

• How to increase your practice in a “down economy” by expanding what you are passionate about and charging for the experience rather than by the hour.
• Working with people according to what matters most to them rather than by what it is you “do.”
• Training your clients to work with you for years rather than for just a few sessions.
• How to add thousands to your income from your self-expression, your heart, and what you care about rather than from a service you offer or by crunching out numbers for a business plan (FYI, it’s still a great idea to have a business plan, and we’ll talk about that, too!).
• Shifting from clients paying by the hour to charging them for the experiences they create when they’re not on the table! (Yep, you read that right: getting paid by your clients for what they do after they work with you!)
• Bryan’s own Recipe for Longevity: Buisness advice I found so profound and resonating with where I am in my business journey that I am going to be instituting into my own coaching and mentoring practice asap!

In the service of modeling transparency: This is the first time I’ve promoted anyone’s service who was outside of the sex educator industry before. And even though I adore Bryan, I hesitated doing this call at first. But after doing my due diligence and listening to several of his recorded presentations and seminars, and after talking with Bryan about what I’d like to cover on the call, I’ve gotten over whatever fear and contraction I was experiencing and I’m telling you to get your ear to the phone for this teleclass ’cause it is going to rock!

In our face-to-face brainstorming meeting, Bryan told me his intention for our call. Basically, Bryan is shooting that this call makes an important difference for me in my buisness.

As Bryan shared with me, “If it’s quality for Reid, it’s quality for me. And it will be quality for Reid’s callers.” And, really, I believe him. I’ve already gotten more than I bargained for just from listening to some of his MP3 materials. Now I’m armed and ready to grill the man behind the coaching business that has generated ten million dollars in ten years. To end, here’s one of my favorite and radically challenging statements of Bryan’s (one that I’m implementing into my mentoring practice, btw)…

“Never charge for your time. Your time is worth nothing. Don’t charge for it. Give it away. Charge your clients handsomely for their experience and for their ability to reproduce it themselves.” ~Bryan Franklin

Spread the word about this call and get your friends and peers to register, too, so they each can receive the call information and/or get the download links. Can’t wait to have you on the call!

Cost: FREE!

ABOUT BRYAN FRANKLIN: Bryan Franklin is a leading executive coach, a compelling speaker, and a successful entrepreneur. He has founded and sold over a dozen companies including his own private equity fund and has now generated over $10 million in executive coaching over the last decade making him one of the most financially successful coaches in the country.